How would you feel if you found out the person you were emailing was really your boyfriend after you've said some pretty bad and dirty things?

I pretended to be someone else emailing my ex girlfriend and when I seen her responses I was devastated but kept sending her emails for over a year discovering how far she was willing to take it. During that time she was sending this person nude pictures and videos of herself and was even planning on leaving me to be with the person she thought she was emailing. I had told her that I found out shortly after the emails started without divulging that it was me and she promised it would never happen again but 4 days later she was back at it with answering the emails and continuing doing the same things. During this time I trusted her to go out with her girlfriends that were in town and I was told there would be other men accompaning them but she swore she was only going to see her girlfriends and I need not worry. Three years later she hooked back up with one of the guys from that night and then dumped me for him. She accused me of cheating on her or looking for someone new so I could dump her which none of that was true. To this day which has been almost 14 months I have still been with no one but her since we met and haven't gotten over her meanwhile she selfishly jumped into her new relationship and hasn't spent one day alone to ponder our relationship. She totally blames me for pretending to be someone else via emails and she says she's done nothing wrong.


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Most Helpful Girl

  • There was obviously trust issues between you two in the first place if you began to pretend to be someone else to see how she would react. She probably feels deceived and ashamed and embarrassed at the whole thing. Relationships don't work if there is no trust as you have found out yourself and so it is for the best that you break up with her. Often cheaters blame and accuse the other person of cheating too as a reaction to be caught themselves. If that is the type of person she is then you are better off without her.
    I would also advise that you think about what it is that drove you to take the action that you did. If you didn't have trust in her in the first place, think about what she had been doing before then to make you feel like that. In your next relationship you should try to avoid doing the same thing you did here.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Obviously she’d feel deceived. Doesn’t mean she has the moral high ground though.

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    • My reasons for doing it were justified and she wasn't coming clean with me

    • You could leave. Instead you stooped.

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What Girls Said 1

  • Sounds like you both deserved each other.

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    • so you didn't answer the question and we aren't together fyi.

    • Saccharissa is saying you both disrespected each other, so both deserved the outcome

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  • I would feel really confused and unsure of how I ended up with a boyfriend.

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