Now, I don't have an issue with doing any of this, if there was some input on her side. I've spoken to her about helping out and she immediately gets defensive and uses her mental health as a way of not doing anything.
Yesterday I got really hurt by what she did. I unfortunately had to take the day off work due to illness, it wasn't pretty, fever, nausea, sweats, it was horrific. Before she went to work she knew I was ill, she knew I'd been sick. But yet she made plans to go do stuff after work... Now I know this sounds like whining, but every time she is ill, I'm home immediately after work, cancel plans, try and do everything I can to make things easier and help her feel better. When I raised my concern she snapped at me and said "Right, how was I meant to know you weren't at work, he came in and made plans in person, what was I meant to do?"
I kindly responded "I've been violently sick since the moment you left for work, I thought you would be coming home given how I am. Given that everytime you are ill, I make sure to look after you and help as much as possible."
This exploded into her blaming me for not keeping her informed, and that she wouldn't have made plans had she known I wasn't going into work (I work in the food industry, after being sick it's 48hours before you can handle food again).
Im at the end of my tether, I really love her but she hurts me in ways I wasn't aware of. I feel so played, I feel like a 2nd thought. It was my birthday a few months back, no card no present no thought.
Anyone been in a similar situation?
Advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Focus on yourself!!
Make her feel your importance.
Sometimes people don't realise how much effort we put into them until we stop.
That is what you must do.
Stop doing her work work, let her do her own shit!
Distance yourself from her & observe her reactions.
Don't be overly kind, people tend to think kindness as weakness.
If she does wrong take revenge!
You must validate your importance & earn your respect!!
P. S. If nothing works DIVORCE THE BITCH!!!