Of course, I still want to reconcile with him but I'm acting in a way so that I can move on fast even if we might not get back together again. I deleted all our pics together, unfriended him and his friends on FB and went NC. I've also now got new hobbies lined up and made plans with friends to meet up. I also avoid posting emotional stuff on social media, so if he snoops around I'd seem to do just fine at least.
Aside from not returning my stuff, he still hasn't deleted my close friends and family on his FB. Hell, he's still in the group chat with my sis and her boyfriend and some other friends. However, he hasn't contacted me or anything lately.
What do you think are his actions indicative of? Is there any sense in still hoping for reconciliation? And based on how I'm acting now, what are my chances?
Also, when's a good time to follow up on getting my stuff back?
P. S. There are more details I've left out or else this post would be longer. So ask away for clarifications :)
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He might be busy (afterall, you two did break up).
Honestly, I don’t see any break ups as “something that will make us stronger”. From my experience, when the seal breaks, it’s ruined.
He might not be letting go as easily... or he might be busy. Either way, you might want to text him and ask him to mail your things to you.
Or you could text him and ask if he could meet up to exchange things. And talk at the same time.
If he is really that busy, though. Why don’t you just participate in more activities/job to occupy your time so you two don’t notice you aren’t spending as much time together? Time spent together will have to be more deliberately planned, but that isn’t necessarily a bad thing.