When we first started our relationship (2 years ago) I would go down on him a lot, and it took him a while for him to go down on me. Her eventually did, but I had to ask him. However, he still wouldn't do it often, but he would ask me to go down on him.
About a year ago, before marriage, he made a comment saying my vagina "stank" after going down on me. I got offended, and kinda cut off oral sex from there.
About 2 weeks ago, he made a comment about my vagina's lips, calling them "meat curtains".
And today, we were talking about disgusting things. He saying nasty stuff (I mean actual nasty stuff), to make me cringe, so I said, "oh ok, if you wanna play like that I'll show you something [nasty] when you're eating", to which he replied "you're gong to show me your vagina".
At this point, I don't have that much sex with him anymore, and we stopped oral sex a while ago, even though he hints that he wants it all the time, but I don't give it to him cause he doesn't go down on me, so yeah. Does my husband find me disgusting?
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He sounds like a HUGE asshole. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to go down on you but if that it he should just say he doesn't enjoy it instead of insulting you. If you were teasing him and belittling him about his dick the way he does to you about your vagina, half the guys on here would say you're a bitch and claim he should cheat on you for saying that, so don't listen to any of them because they are full of shit. And I always said if my partner expects me to do oral and he won't reciprocate you bet your ass he won't be getting a blow job especially if he is being such a sick about it. If I were you the next time he says something like that I would say well if that's how you really feel then others no need for us to have sex. And then I wouldn't have sex until he apologized and meant it. And I'm not one for withholding sex as a punishment but in this case it fits the act. He shouldn't get rewarded with sex by insulting the very thing and very woman he is getting it from. It may not be some huge thing but even small things go to show how little a person respects you and cares for your feelings. If you haven't talked about it with him sit him down and do so. If you have don't wait around too long for his actions to change because it's possible you may end up waiting the rest of your life.4