Husband made comments about my vagina? Guys opinion?

Question

When we first started our relationship (2 years ago) I would go down on him a lot, and it took him a while for him to go down on me. Her eventually did, but I had to ask him. However, he still wouldn't do it often, but he would ask me to go down on him.

About a year ago, before marriage, he made a comment saying my vagina "stank" after going down on me. I got offended, and kinda cut off oral sex from there.

About 2 weeks ago, he made a comment about my vagina's lips, calling them "meat curtains".

And today, we were talking about disgusting things. He saying nasty stuff (I mean actual nasty stuff), to make me cringe, so I said, "oh ok, if you wanna play like that I'll show you something [nasty] when you're eating", to which he replied "you're gong to show me your vagina".

At this point, I don't have that much sex with him anymore, and we stopped oral sex a while ago, even though he hints that he wants it all the time, but I don't give it to him cause he doesn't go down on me, so yeah. Does my husband find me disgusting?

iminhell · Accepted Answer

He sounds like a HUGE asshole. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to go down on you but if that it he should just say he doesn't enjoy it instead of insulting you. If you were teasing him and belittling him about his dick the way he does to you about your vagina, half the guys on here would say you're a bitch and claim he should cheat on you for saying that, so don't listen to any of them because they are full of shit. And I always said if my partner expects me to do oral and he won't reciprocate you bet your ass he won't be getting a blow job especially if he is being such a sick about it. If I were you the next time he says something like that I would say well if that's how you really feel then others no need for us to have sex. And then I wouldn't have sex until he apologized and meant it. And I'm not one for withholding sex as a punishment but in this case it fits the act. He shouldn't get rewarded with sex by insulting the very thing and very woman he is getting it from. It may not be some huge thing but even small things go to show how little a person respects you and cares for your feelings. If you haven't talked about it with him sit him down and do so. If you have don't wait around too long for his actions to change because it's possible you may end up waiting the rest of your life.

samantha-elle326 · Accepted Answer

I am so sorry he says those things to you. Those are really terrible things for him to say and you should never be shamed (for any reason) by the man who is suppose to be your best friend. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. Ever!

In my opinion, most women seem to be slightly insecure when it comes to how our vagina looks, smells, tastes, etc. Men are aware of this. Perhaps your husband just doesn't enjoy the gift of delighting you with oral sex, but lacks the communication skills to verbalize that. So instead he throws insults your way.

Some men don't know how to give good oral sex. So they deflect by using insults or making it about you to avoid the fact they don't know what they're doing.

No matter they reason, he doesn't have the right to say what he's been saying. If he isn't mature enough to discuss the problem he's having with you without insults, he doesn't deserve to have sex (of any kind) with you.

Cuteusernamehere · Accepted Answer

He's a jerk. Unless you have some serious hygiene issues going on I'm sure there's nothing wrong with your vagina. Truthfully vaginas are pretty ugly to look at, Penises aren't pretty either. I'm a nurse and have seen more genitals then a lot of porn stars have. There's a huge realm of what is "normal". He's making excuses to not do it because he doesn't like it. The least he could do is just admit that and not make you feel like crap about it.

Rasheed2017 · Accepted Answer

It is not necessary to go down on each other to prove your love for each other. A lot of practical examples of loving couples are there in which one partner can not go for oral but still enjoy amazing love.

Making comments is most ever a fun for the partner but this is so terrible and unacceptable that even leads to breaking up relations. But for sure your partner don't realize the intensity of your feelings on these comments.

Do convey him, what his comments really means to you and note him after that. Then you would better decide what to do further.

Juxtapose · Accepted Answer

Your husband is a f***ing a**hole.

Unless your vagina smells like death he has no right to complain. Does he think his dick smells perfect?

And there's nothing wrong with your vagina, your husband looks at too much porn.

imsmartaskme · Answer

vaginas do smell and if they're not clean they smell bad. assuming yours is clean, he probably said that because he doesn't like going down on women. it does sound like he's being a dick about it though. you could ask him straight out if he has a problem with your vagina. if he says no then have him prove it. if he says yes, you'll both have a lot of talking and problem solving to do, for the good of your marriage

kikikat95 · Answer

lol I broke up with my boyfriend over him not wanting to go down on me. It's cause he was being selfish but he explained he was going through a lot (I call bs) and he loves the taste of pussy and I think my vagina stank af but I use summers eve every few days and it helps a bunch so ya basically tel him to find a love for the kitty or tel him to find a new wife trust me if he can't make u happy in bed you'll never be satisfied plus REAL MEN love pussy and satisfying their partner

karahiri · Answer

sounds like its time to get a divorce. he expects oral but refuses to give you oral. your sex life has gone down the drain. he's rude and insulting. end it.

Xavixk · Answer

I'm sorry, but your husband sounds like an asshole

jakeiremonger · Answer

Lmfaoooo. Oh man that made my night. Your husband is hilarious. No he doesn't find you disgusting. He just doesn't like going down on you.

AvgCdnJoe · Answer

Vaginas are pretty gross tbh. Not a whole lot can be done about it though, except for proper hygiene, and even then genitals are still pretty gross. That goes for men too. The girls I've been with always kiss me after giving me a bj, so I know how bad it tastes, and I shower regularely and usually before sex. I'd say to find someone else though. He sounds pretty immature.

SAWM1 · Answer

If you tutu stinks take a shower before doing the deeds. If he says its ugly Just say vaginas are never pretty

tbillion · Answer

He just sounds like an asshole. You probably just have a normal looking vagina and he's not a "vagina" guy. Probably a butt or boobs guy.. Those types are the ones who make remarks about vagina smell and look. There are a lot of variables. I mean if your on point with hygiene and pH balance then I mean he may just not be a rug much er like me ;)

surimeow · Answer

Next time tell him his dick smells gross..

lord_chilled · Answer

He just finds the taste or apperance unattractive. Thats kind of a bad thing to say to your woman. He is being very insensitive, so im not gonna defend him in this case 😐

TheUglyMonk · Answer

He's a keeper.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

he is just being stupid if you wash up both of you before sex you should both smell good

DanielKaluuya · Answer

this should have been figured out before marriage

dglvn343 · Answer

It takes two in a lovely sexual relationship

dallasfreak4all · Answer

I think he doesn't like giving oral sex at all and is just making excuses. I love to go down on a girl and will do it without her having to reciprocate with me