Why won't my ex boyfriend not want to be my friend now when he said before that he cared about me and still wanted to stay friends at least?

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Why won't my ex boyfriend not want to be my friend now when he said before that he cared about me and still wanted to stay friends at least?

Empty_broken

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Anonymous

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That's usually a thing people say to try and soften the blow. They usually don't mean it because memories/tension.

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- Empty_broken
  
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  Well a couple weeks ago I ended things and wanted to stay friends and he said he really wanted to and didn't want to walk away any less then that then a few days ago he broke up with me and said he doesn't want to be friends now
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Maybe he realized he couldn't do it because it would be too emotional for him. Give it time, just remember being friends with ex's are hard. If you guys are meant to be friends, it'll happen over time. I wouldn't push him though.

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inkdad66
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Maybe because he is hurting. Men are strange creatures. I still love my ex. I care about her deeply and know id take her back in a second but she hurt me so i can't be her friend as id always want what we had before.

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- Empty_broken
  
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  That's how I feel about him since he's hurting do you think he'll come back to me? I am well am so hurt by him
- inkdad66
  
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  Why did you split up.
- Empty_broken
  
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  I'm not to sure TBH I said something I shouldn't have said to him I think maybe that's why I'm not sure but he won't talk to me and it's killing me
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- inkdad66
  
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  My ex was 21 and left me for another guy she had known for years. This is their 3rd attempt at a relationship and now they are getting married but she keeps attempting to contact me and says she diesnt want to lose ne.
- inkdad66
  
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  When men get hurt we can react in very strange ways. I personally think he's scared you will hurt him again and he doesn't want to take that chance. We act all tough sometimes and when we get hurt we put up bigger walls than any woman can.
- Empty_broken
  
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  He was the one that hurt me tho with what he did
- inkdad66
  
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  Can i ask how.
- Empty_broken
  
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  The stuff he said to me how he treated me and he kissed another girl
- Empty_broken
  
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  When we were together
- inkdad66
  
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  See I've never done that and maybe and sorry to say this but you are better off without him.
  I've never cheated or even kissed another female when im in a relationshio. All my partners have been a lot younger than me as my emotional level is higher than a younger guy and i know how to treat my partners. But they have all hurt me because if my soft heart. Men say thing sonetimes they don't mean but kissing someone to me is betrayal and i couldnt be with someone who fid that in front of me.

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thegr8lion | 202 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.
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His new girl may not like it

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- Empty_broken
  
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  He doesn't have a new girl we just broke up a few days ago
- thegr8lion
  
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  So how do you know he does not have one by now
- Empty_broken
  
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  He's not like that
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- thegr8lion
  
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  May be
mustafa1598
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Well, I want to tell you something private

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- Empty_broken
  
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  Say it here?
- mustafa1598
  
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  Sorry I can't
Anonymous

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Ex's can not be friends. It doesn't work

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shanlou Xper 2 · Accepted Answer

Having recently broken up with my ex, it was my choice to refuse contact with him. This was because I was and am hurting. I am still in love with him, but I know that we were not working and have to work on getting over him now, and if I was to be in contact with him then it would take me longer or hurt me even more to try and continue as if our relationship didn't happen. This is probably his reasoning, he wants to move on from the relationship but needs time. Often with any serious relationship there has to be a no-contact period for both parties to come to terms with the ending of the relationship, this is common and allows for people to heal. It doesn't mean that you cannot ever be friends, but to go back to being friends immediately after breaking up is often difficult to do for at least one of the parties. He is hurting and needs time.

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