How could you say that? She enjoyed the sex part as well! Why do guys get blamed for all this, wasn't the sex consensual.. You both used each other... Not just him
Didn't I just say in All In fairness she used him too? This is not about pleasure this has everything to do with the fact that she chose to have sex with somebody that she's not already married to that's number one. Number to sex can have a very big impact on a woman especially because we are emotional creatures as is. This haven't even greater effect because when we experience of the so deeply we relive it all the time as if it's happening right now. This can cause serious mental and emotional damage. Which can result in into depression bitterness or resentment. And if it gets out of control and may even lead her into a psych ward. That's how serious and Powerful sex is. And what happens when you decide to abuse that power.
Has an even greater effect*To be honest both are equally to blame because if they didn't think about this prior and just wanted a good screw it's their fault.
We did think about it prior and yes wanted sex with eachother but that's not all I wanted
But this is why you wait until you are married to experience sex because when you decide to have premarital sex as I said before it is all fair game. He can get whatever he wants and still walks. There is no law stating that what he did is a crime. Unless you want to go according to God's word then yeah you both at fault. But he try to do that while he's married to you that's considered adultery and in some states you can divorced him for that.
If you really want it more than you should have stated your intentions very clear that way he had the right to say yes or no.
So now you learn the hard way why God said you wait. And not do whatever you want just because you think you can just do it without consequences. Now you're tied to a guy who's no longer going to be in your life. This is what it means to make adult choices.
I'm a virgin by the way.. glad I never played with any girls heart...
I can do whatever I want clearly you don't know anything about sex nor relationships and yeah god cause he knows everything right 😂 you people make me laugh
But see you don't understanding once you're having premarital sex you ain't thinking about whether not you playing with someone's heart or not. You would come and change person that you don't even know who you are anymore.
And to be honest with you asking I don't think you need to be laughing, because you're the one that got played and you played yourself good. Try laughing when you're thinking about him sexually and he's no longer in the same bed as you keeping it warm.
Because if everything was all good his butt would have never left.
I'm laughing because you don't know what your talking about and you don't know the whole story so you don't know if I got played or not
I know the whole story because you told me the whole story that's how I know. So quit boasting to hide your hurt. You only embarrassing yourself. I can read right through you you're so easy to read. If everything is all good you can stop hiding behind woe-is-me nonsense.
And you want to know why he left he left because he felt tired of being such a relationship with you. Because he knows he was using you and he felt so guilty so he told you something to let you off easy to hide his guilt. He can't stand it anymore. And you know how I know this? Because something similar happened to my close friend before she got married. Trying to make out like he was also serious and he was still playing with her heart. It broke her down until she realize that it was all but a lie. She gave her virginity to him and she wanted to wait until marriage. She believed in him and he continue to let her down every time. He keeps breaking up with her but he still keeps asking for her back. She love them so much that even if she knew what she was doing was wrong she still believed in him.
I'm not here to belittle you I'm here to help you. Even though I'm a virgin myself I'm also still a woman. And we women feel each other's hurt and pain that's why they call it woman's intuition. You don't have to pretend with me. I cannot tell you how to live your life but you have to learn to think better than this. Because it is your life and it is your choice and it won't be anybody else's fault for those choices but yours.
You deserve better, so why you wasting your time with imbeciles who act like they don't know what they want and need? Don't Resort yourself to filth and don't Resort yourself for Less. Cuz if you ask for less than you would get what you ask for. And you won't get any more than what you ask for is worth.
I don't think he has another girl but I guess props to me for that sex stuff then 😂 if he kept me that long tho do you think he'll remember me?
Of course he will. I remember every one of mine. He didn't become a dog to dog you out unfortunately all us guys whether they will admit it or not are like that. It doesn't mean we don't like you or we were trying to make you feel bad it's just the game baby. You chase and get and then you chase another and get. Hey if you want to call or text me I would love to see a picture of you. You sound like an awesome woman. Kenny B...3609208452. smile baby never let anyone get you down. Text me ok.
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If you have been together for so long, why would you just now doubt his intentions?
Well I doubted them the whole time just now I'm really thinking about it
Lol well that's a long time to doubt someone. Without a real reason to doubt, just sounds like you are insecure with yourself and have to rationalize any other reason this boy is with you other than he really just wants to be with you.
Well he actually just ended things with me a few days ago 😕
I'm not to sure why TBH we got into an argument and he said he didn't want to talk to me anymore
Then it's possible he was just bored with the relationship and wanted something new. Ending a relastionship over an argument is childish and means he was not willing to put in the work
The thing is is we've had so many arguments and we always got back to eachother within a few days this was the first time he said I don't want to talk to you anymore and to leva whim alone 😕so I'm confused and hurt
Ok so just tell him that. Half the time the guy is just waiting for you to admit fault. Not that you truly were at fault, i don't know the argument. He may just want to feel superior. Maybe he really does want to break uo this time for good. He at least need to give you a clear explanation that's not during a heated argument.
I'm scared to contact him because he told me to leave him alone and I don't want harassment charges. He threatened that. I don't know what I did or said
If he calls the cops because you called his phone, he's a big pussy. You can only be charged with harassment for a prolonged period on constant messages and calls that leads to the victim to fear their own safety or the safety of others.
I just can't believe he would say that or do that after all the time we spent
How long do you think I should wait to message him and what should I say?
Well believe it because it happened lol
I mean I don't know your situation but maybe you could test the water by contacting one of his friends first. Otherwise I wouldn't wait more than a week.
I don't have any of his friends numbers and he doesn't talk about me
That is what we call a red flag. The fact that he keeps you apart from his guy friends is a sign he was using you.
Well tbh he doesn't really have many friends he's always home playing games
Either way, it may be time to have an adult conversation to clear the air.
Thank you I will take that advice :)
So you think he actually had feelings for me then? He would never admit to it
the feeling may have developed later
Yes very recently
How did he end things?
Did he ever tell you he liked you?
We got into an argument
Yes he did say he liked me all the time I really like you is what he said
Or I like you a lot
It started out as a friends with benefits but I think it grew to a relationship like we talked about everything everyday all day
Then, I don't think he is using you for sex if he loves you.