My girlfriend has been violent with me. She threw a wooden spatula at me when we were arguing in the kitchen and called me an idiot who deserved it. After which, I threatened to leave her and I took off. She found me the next day at a friend's place begging and crying.
She guilt trips me into staying with her. She says things like, you're my soulmate and if you break up with me I have no reason to live.
I don't know what to do?
Most Helpful Girl
My ex was never violent, but he was manipulative and thought he could get away with mistreating me emotionally and in order to pull me back he would say those things too, that I was 'the one' and he would kill himself if I left. But they are manipulation methods, if they truly loved you then then they wouldn't do those things. Take the courage and leave, the behaviour only gets worse. There is no way that you will be happy in this relationship in the long term. It will be hard but once you make your decision, stick to it and don't crumble and go back. Once you leave you leave, so make the decision carefully. It's tough but doable and you deserve more.1
Most Helpful Guy
It is only going to get worse. I myself am in a bad one as well. She is/was has potential still to be. I have heard that one too, I am going to kill myself, she never did. I have been slapped, concussed with a Klein Spud wrench, cut with a butcher knife, and been to jail over domestic crap a few times, both of us. I have gotten to a point I am miserable, have lost most good things in my life such as the hard fought custody of my youngest child who just turned 16... Yet I feel powerless to break away, always hoping that it will be better and love conquers all, our violence has stopped but now I don't have my kid, I am bitter and mad all the time and no longer the happy person I was... Do yourself a favor, don't be like me... GET OUT... AND I MEAN RUN, DONT WALK... NOW, AS FAST AS YOU CAN. Don't wait till you feel that your too vested, and the woman mentally beats you down into believing it all started with you and that she loves you and all can be forgiven, because you will find that though you may say all is forgiven, it really truly never will be.0