My boyfriend is an American and I'm Chinese. We've been together 2 and half years. Ten days ago he sneaked away from me when I was out of town. He left 5 emails to me. It was like "when you are reading this email I am on the plane to go home". He told me he wasn't in love with me anymore, our relationship had problems.
He planned this secretly, even the day before he left I told him i might pregnant. But he still gone.
I didn't say anything about this. I predicted he would do this because he is not stable and reasonable. He made a group chat to tell everyone I am a horrible person. I kept quiet about everything. At the fourth day he started to send me email, say how much he misses me, I didn't say anything about the situation, it hurts him. It shows I don't care.
After another 3 days I went to the hospital, got the hospital report of the pregnancy. I kept thinking about if I need to tell him. Then I think he has the right to know. I messenged him I'm pregnant with the test results. He seemed happy. He told this to his group chat friends. All his friends only know all the bad things he said about me. They all think I was faking it. They said very bad things to me and he started to call me a liar.
I sent the ultrasound report to him the next day, he started to believe it's real. He post my ultrasound report to the group chat let everyone laugh at me.
The next day he totally changed his mind. He started to beg me marry him. He apologized the wrong things he has done, confessed he took my money secretly when he was leaving. It was $6000. Say how much he loves me, I am a great great girl he will move back to China in one month. I think he is a horrible person and a thief. There is no way I would marry this guy.
After I said no to him two days in row, he started to say very mean things to me. I am not sure should I stop talking to him or let him get involved in the process and be the father. I don't want he takes my baby to America.
He really wants a baby. He is only nice to me when he wants something from me.
Most Helpful Guy
I think it goes without saying, cut off ALL ties with the guy.
He stole your money! RED FLAG!
He went behind your back and left you wondering! RED FLAG!
He didn't initially believe you about the pregnancy. RED FLAG!
Worst of all and that's saying something, he has an online group that he's made you aware of in which he regularly roasts you with his friends. A HUGE RED FLAG!
I'm sorry you have to go through all of this ridicule and harassment.
I promise you can do so much better! Just move on! I know it will be hard.
Do whatever it takes but don't let yourself be fooled by him anymore!4
Most Helpful Girl
I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart honestly breaks for you. I'm so so so fucking sorry that you had to go through this. You don't deserve this. At all. I trust you're a wonderful woman.
I'm disgusted by this man that you call your boyfriend. I'm fucking disgusted. How disgusting someone can be and stoop so low, that I will never fathom out. Please please please never get back with him. You deserve someone who won't treat you like a piece of shit. Someone who won't say shit about you and brainwash people into thinking you're a horrible human being. Someone who won't steal your money. Someone who won't back out last minute when finding out you've been pregnant. I'm sorry you fell into this trap, some foreigners are fucked up and only want sex. I'm sorry he didn't value you enough and saw you as an easy girl. I'm sorry you had to meet such an utterly atrocious human being. Please please please dump his ass and never listen to him. He's a liar. A fucking liar. I hate people like him.1
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