He did try to apologise after the way he went on, but he was calling me at 4am when I'd to work, and I was furious with him. Any time I tried to talk to him after that he's ignored me. I left it to give him time as he knows how to contact me and I didn't want to overwhelm him with messages, I blocked him on Facebook as it hurt too much. After a few weeks silence I unblocked him and discovered he put on Facebook that he was in a relationship, I don't want to contact him as it's not fair to annoy him if he is happy with someone, i intend on blocking him again after 48 hours. But I'm hurting a lot, how little i meant to him, was he talking to someone while we were dating, it doesn't say who it is and I don't want to know. I feel sick and I've only started to socialise again after the break up and I just want to go back into my room and never leave.
is he rebounding or did I just not matter?
What can I do to feel better?
Most Helpful Guy
I think he is rebounding, if I was the guy I'd try to get anything to distract me from the pain and another relationship does that very well. You did definitely matter, he wouldn't have just never talked to you again if he wasn't incredibly hurt from what you did. The best thing you can do to feel better is spend more time with friends, try to always be around someone so that you don't go into the hole of depression. Getting out more and excersizing will also help1
Most Helpful Girl
Despite if he's rebounding or not, who cares. Leave him enjoy his life, you're far better off without him.
He had the nerve to be spending his time chatting with someone while you two were together, that's completely unfair to you. If he was bored with the relationship, or his feelings changed thats one thing, but to be basically conversing with possible love interests while being in a relationship with you, thats low.
Breakups are never easy. I think you did the right thing to block him, and cut contct with him completely. Now it's time to think of yourself! Let him move onto someone new, and you move forward in your own life.
Try to keep busy, or keep your friends close and open up to your family, people who you trust to share how you're feeling. Talking does help, but it's also a vicious circle, as feelings do come around again. You two haven't been broken up long, it can take anywhere from months to years to get over someone, but it's all up to you now.
Focus on yourself, do things each day that make you happy. Get into a hobby or interest, get out with friends (even if you dont feel like it) getting out will help you take your mind off the breakup and let you enjoy spending time with those around you.
Treat yourself to some comfort food, and have a movie night in for a change if you'd prefer. Invite some of your girlfriends over, joke around with them and watch funny movies. It can help wonders.
Also, don't let this one person decide your happiness. Don't let him make you feel like you'r worthless or you will never be able to find someone else, because you WILL. You deserve someone FAR better, who will make you feel happy, safe, comfortable, secure, and bring you more positivity to your life than anyone ever could.
I went through a terrible relationship in the past, and all my life (I'm 24) i've only had two relationships. I learned a lot from the first one. After the breakup I learned that there's no reason to let someone have control of my happiness, and there's no point of being upset about something that isn't my fault. I gave it my best, and the guy didn't respect it, nor appreciated it. So screw him. Just as this scenario here. Don't place the blame on yourself. You were happy before you met him, and you can certainly be happy again on your own.
You'll get through it. Give yourself time, let your heart mend and focus your time, attention, energy into treating yourself and doing things to benefit you.