My last 2 ex's cheated on me and I don't understand it is it me or is it them? I didn't think I was that bad...
Most Helpful Guy
Strange... I had this one figured out straight away when my first live in partner cheated on me, it was a combination of factors, not least of which was her low self esteem, add to the mix my workaholism and me taking several weeks out of town to help my retiree parents renovate their home interstate, and hey Presto her unemployed sleeze bag ex feeds his pathetic ego nailing her in my bed while I'm out of town. Guilt and remorse get the better of her and she confesses the whole deal to me several months later, I'm glad she's honest and take it extremely well, but let her know in no uncertain terms our relationship is over as it's now unfortunately got an unhealthy dynamic of distrust in it. That was the part that threw me, she honestly expected in light of what had happened despite personally accepting the fact I should have been there for her, because of her honesty that I would some how want to keep her in an unsound and potentially unhealthy relationship. So I guess my answer is "cheaters have potentially two problems a) low self esteem b) a complete failure to gauge the ramifications and outcomes of their own actions" best if luck and take the whole experience as a growing one, and thank your lucky stars you dodged a bullet.0
Most Helpful Girl
People cheat because they are too much of a coward to end the relationship or marriage that they are not happy in. Instead of working on issues or ending things, they want their bread buttered on both sides and want to make it easier on themselves by cheating.0