My third relationship of the year ended yesterday. I always date online, I don't have any other option. But I feel like I treat this people pretty well, and there shouldn't be a reason they'd end it or just up and leave... Could it be that I get pretty invested and serious about them quickly? Or my mental issues? Or that I have a poor personality and I'm fat? I'm just tired of this and its starting to make me dislike myself ): People always tell me to just stop trying and work on myself, but for me, working on myself with someone beside me to love me isn't imaginable...
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Yeah, you're not ready to be in relationships. And considering you had three in the year, it seems like you can't just be alone. You need to be able to be comfortable with yourself before you get involved with guys. You can't look for something with the idea that they are going to complete you. You need to be whole on your own first. If you yourself think you are fat and/or ugly, your self esteem is too low to be in a relationship. You need to work on your self esteem, and if you think your weight needs work, then you need to work on that before you jump into anymore relationships. And if you are going to do the online dating thing, you can't go on a date with expectations. You have to take each date one date as a time. That's what the guys are doing. They wanna take it one day at a time and so should you. But you seem young. Don't get strung up on relationships. Work on your education, career, finances, health, hobbies and regular friendships before thinking about another relationship. This may seem harsh, but I have to say, not having your life on track, not being healthy and not having goals is the most unattractive characteristics anyone could have. You seem like a broken person when your life isn't in order, and when you look like that, it seems like you're a project someone has to fix, and no one wants that, especially someone who is around your age. Someone around their age are still trying to get their life in order and they don't want to have to try to help you get your life in order. And being in three relationships wreaks of desperation, which no one wants.
Look, it's obvious you feel like you need a relationship. And if you have a lot of friends who are in relationships, the pressure increases even more. If you're not patient enough, you're just going through guy after guy, and you'll end up with a guy who is REALLY bad, you're going to get hurt, and regular, drama-free relationships will never be a part of your life. But if you work on your life, better yourself, establish some goals and be very patient, the next guy you meet might be the last guy you have to meet, and you'll be able to have a great, drama-free life.0
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