I have had all i can take with my partner of 4 years. I can't take him anymore. I have nothing left to give, my self esteem is no longer there and i dont recognize myself anymore. I know i need to leave him to save myself but im scared and i dont know how. We live together and have loans together. Any advice would be great :(
Most Helpful Guy
Hi, Really sorry to read about your situation.
Here's what you do.
Pack your essentials, things that you need for everyday use, passport, clothes, Loan contact details etc.
Leave a note telling him why you left and tell him that you will not answer his phonecalls/or change number.
Do not turn your phone off and keep a record of how many times he will call, he will also try to use someone else's phone number to call you, let everything go to voicemail, then you can choose who to talk to.
Go to stay somewhere safe, Parents ideally, instruct them not to give him access to contact you. He will try to contact you.
Once there and safe, try to assess your situation and keep yourself positive
Do not go to work for at least one week.
Within a few days, contact Loan companies and explain the situation. They see this everyday, this is not a problem. They will agree to accept your side of the monthly payments separately.
Good Luck and you can do this, message me if you need to
Most Helpful Girl
Tell him straight. Get your affairs in order first. If you have loans, you'll have to come to some sort of agreement. Best to talk to a solicitor or something and then break up with him. Move out as soon as you can. Best of luck to you.1