So I've been in a relationship of 12yrs an I'm just not happy... I want to leave but the guy is a great father (plus I don't want to half to deal wit the where is daddy questions) so I stay knowing that everyday wit this man is killing my spirit... If I try to go he'll go abusive in front of anyone... How do I get out?
How do I get out?
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You should definitely go if you think he's going to be abusive. And if you've tried to be happy with him and nothing has worked, then yes, it's time to get out. Convey your feelings to him. Be honest, say the things that will hurt, and go from there. If you have serious reason to believe he will be abusive from that, then you give him no conversation and you go to a trusted relative or friend and you tell him from there what's going on. Just be prepared for the amount of drama that this is going to bring and be careful of how this will affect your kid. It will affect your kid in a negative way, but you being unhappy in that relationship will also affect the kid negatively, so you have to decide what's best for you. But again, I don't care how nice he is now, if you fear abuse, doesn't matter the circumstances of the abuse, you get out of there and make sure you're safe.1
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I knew she was going to claim he'd get 'abusive'.
He deserves better than you. You're basically there because he's supporting you and the kids. Most likely you contribute very little to the family overall. Especially now that you've decided you need to climb back on the Cock Carousel.
Here's how you leave:
Pack your shit (YOUR shit, not communal shit) and GTFO. Don't try to get the court to kick him out but keep making him pay for the house, don't try to weaponize the kids, don't try to steal his paycheck. Just fuckin LEAVE.1
If he is a great father, leave and give him the kids.0
C child support could back you up with the father questions0
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