During college, my ex-boyfriend and I were together for three years. We broke up because I found out he had cheated on me four months into our relationship and he used to drink too much. Today, my friend and I were returning from the liquor store with OJ & champagne and we saw his best friend; his friend introduced my ex to me and we have always been friends. We drank mimosas and caught up with his friend and he said that he was living with my ex - three doors down from my apartment. The inevitable is that my current boyfriend and I will frequently run into my ex-boyfriend. I haven't seen or spoken to my ex-boyfriend in three years. My current boyfriend is not the possessive type but he will get jealous in some situations. Today, my boyfriend went skiing but I will tell him when he gets home. He previously had issues with my ex because he would continue to contact me after we got together and say that he missed me/loved me and doesn't want to be with anyone else. How would you feel if your girlfriends ex moved in down the hall from you?
Most Helpful Guy
I would tell you to just please let me know if he puts his hands on you against your wishes. If he talks to you remember that you have two options, respond or don't. But I can get what you're trying to get out here. Nobody wants to say it so I will. If I was 30 again and saw him in the building we lived I'd ask him not to nicely "did you even look anywhere else to find an apartment or what?". But first I should've asked you, did he know where you two live before getting his spot?0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
I think the answer is pretty simple. If you have to deal with your ex just keep it clear your not interested. As for your boyfriend keep an open line of communication. If your communicating and he feels like it's a problem after 3 years of not talking to your ex I would say there is a different underlying issue. Dealing with exes isn't always easy, but if it's been that long even if your ex tries approaching you, just be honest with your current and make sure he knows that it isn't some big thing. You can't choose where your ex moves and maybe he does think he can try rekindling the fire. Just be honest and let him know living there doesn't mean you have to deal with him, if he can't keep out of your current relationship then ignore him (I know it's a pain) but the truth is when exes get clingy making it clear you have moved on is key.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE