So I'm biased to this situation, which is why I need your opinions. I have this guy friend who dated his girlfriend for almost 4 years. They even have a kid together (cutest little thing😍). Bottom line they started having problems in their relationship. She always complains that he's a very intolerant guy, always busy, never spends time with her, and that he's purposely taking his time to propose. In her defense, they've been together for so long, and she really loves him, so why doesn't he want to seal the deal already? But he still loved her regardless. Now he had a friend who started paying more attention to her than him, and eventually one thing led to another, she slept with the friend. Immediately after it happened, she regretted it and told him about it. She begged him not to end things with her, and that she still loves him, it was just one stupid mistake and that she will never do it again. He doesn't know what to do, and I'm his best friend, but I still don't know what to tell him. I don't think it's my place to tell someone to end an almost 4 year relationship. What do you guys think he should do?
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Ohhh boy... Cheaters. What a horrible topic for me to discuss.
Look, I was cheated on in my last relationship. I feel very strongly about the saying "cheaters will be cheaters" and I stand by it. If a cheater offends once they will do it again.
This sort of behaviour absolutely boils my f***ing blood. That girl is an absolute idiot I don't care how offensive that may sound AND i'm not judging the girl by any means but i'm sorry, being unfaithful toward your SO is not only intolerable and immature but is the purest form of disrespect.
I can't understand why a human would purposely continue to be unhappy in a relationship instead of just BEING VOCAL and telling your SO they're having problems.
Look at what they built, they have a child together. Clearly that, combined with a 4 year elatinship would suggest both of them were at some stage very close. But life happens... People change, people grow up.
Just because she fell out of love with him DOES NOT give her a right to cheat. I just don't understand how she could do that if she really cared for this guy.
I wouldn't let her away with it. My advice, tell your friend to get away from that toxic relatinship while he's still young.
Honestly, I feel bad for the child stuck in all of this.
And another thing... Tell that your friend to ex-communicate this so-called friend who she cheated with.
Jeez if a friend of mind did that to me I would be furious. Lord only knows what i'd do if a guy knowingly ruined a 4 year relationship on me!
Anyways, I wish this guy the best of luck!2
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