I broke up with him 6 months ago, because we had many cultural differences and I could not see a future with him. He still texted me a lot after the breakup because I still wanted to remain friends and he really tried to win me back. But now he has another girl and I suddenly feel so alone and just realized what I've lost.
He was my first love and I still miss him so much that it literally hurts. I cry myself to sleep almost every night. I can't even concentrate in class and I have exams coming! Why is it so hard, why can't I just accept the fact that we're not meant to be? And how could he just move on like that, while I'm the one who broke up with him and still having the worst feeling. I want the best for him, but is it wrong that I somehow still hope we will be together? Was it a mistake to break up with him and do you think I will ever move on... Everytime a guy approaches me I feel disgusted because nobody makes me feel like he did.. Do you think he will ever forget me... Desperate for help!
Most Helpful Guy
-cry to sleep
-accept the fact “not meant to be”
With those four statements alone, you owe it to yourself to not give up on possibly rekindling with this guy. You’re in a realm of uncertainty and it won’t be pretty going forward. He could get serious with the new girl or you yourself could one day find another mate (and yes it can happen, even with how you feel).
A lot of people will say, move on, time will heal or a thousand other variations of the phrases... but some time you just have to forget ask that *hit & try for the impossible. Sometime the people who pushed us away can come back and a great relationship spawns from it, or sometimes we ourselves push someone away because we’re unclear on how we feel until after some time apart.
Never give up!! You will know how much or when is time to let go, but until then don’t let 6 months shove you around. Stay strong focus on bettering yourself, your schoolwork, and reflect on things you can change and not thing you cannot.
Good luck :) (you can get him back)1
Most Helpful Girl
How could he move on? Honey, you made him suffer for 6 months. I think he had every right to, in fact he did it 5 months too slow.
Listen, my boyfriend once had an ex like you. She broke up with him (for shitty reasons) and lead him on a lot. He tried to get back with her as she was all the love he knew, not because he felt happy with her. They stayed friends, but when he started dating me, only THEN did she tell him she wants him back. She went behind my back and told him that. It made him so frustrated that she lead him on to suffer after she broke up with him, but she only cared enough to do something about it after he got into a relationship with someone else. It was horrible. That wasn't thoughtful or caring at all, and neither is your reaction.
Leave him alone, please. He won't ever forget you, if his girlfriend is kind like me, you can still be friends, but only if you move on. He's not yours, you didn't make a mistake of breaking up with him necessarily, you made the mistake with how you treated the matter after. I highly doubt you ever stopped at least unknowingly leading him on during those 6 months.
Move on, honey. You two are done.1
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