I broke up with him 6 months ago, because we had many cultural differences and I could not see a future with him. He still texted me a lot after the breakup because I still wanted to remain friends and he really tried to win me back. But now he has another girl and I suddenly feel so alone and just realized what I've lost.
He was my first love and I still miss him so much that it literally hurts. I cry myself to sleep almost every night. I can't even concentrate in class and I have exams coming! Why is it so hard, why can't I just accept the fact that we're not meant to be? And how could he just move on like that, while I'm the one who broke up with him and still having the worst feeling. I want the best for him, but is it wrong that I somehow still hope we will be together? Was it a mistake to break up with him and do you think I will ever move on... Everytime a guy approaches me I feel disgusted because nobody makes me feel like he did.. Do you think he will ever forget me... Desperate for help!
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds to me like delayed grief. You weren't forced to grieve in the first instance because it was your decision and you were in control. Now you are no longer in control and you have to actually face the loss, just like he had to face it in the beginning. Grief is natural and it is often painful, but it won't kill you. It is how your body and mind rid you of the emotions that are now toxic to you. You need to go through it, there is no way around that. See it for what it is, a limited time of suffering in order to become stronger again. It's like going to the dentist. It might suck but you'll feel better once it's over.1
Most Helpful Girl
You were so sure that you wouldn't work out. Do you still feel this way? Is the problem that you have always wanted to be with him or the simple fact that you now feel alone and he is no longer giving you the attention you desire? Ask yourself these questions. If you are sure you don't want him and will never work out, leave it be and move on. If you are sure you made a mistake and you are 1000% sure that you would be with him again no bs then it might be worth at least telling him how you feel. At least in that case you would get the appropriate closure. I think the real issue here is that you are just missing his attention and someone to talk to0