I don't really think about him too much anymore, or wish for him to come back. He did break my heart, but after some time, I'm doing great again. The thing is I do get sad every once in a while (like 2 times a month or something) with all the memories and loneliness, but I don't need anyone to cure the loneliness, and the memories fade. Also I'm starting to enjoy flirting with other people again. I don't want any rebound, so I was wondering, how do you know when you're ready to start dating again? How did you know?
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I honestly feel like this could have been my ex writing this. It sounds just like the way she'd say things too (only missing a serious lack of grammar).
We've been broken up a year now and I feel I'm in the same position as this. If I were to give my own ex advise in relation to this question, it would be:
It'll be hard to ever find love again if you don't open yourself to the idea of dating. Test the waters, if you decide after 1, 2, 3 dates or whatever that you're not particularly interested or it doesn't feel right, call it a day.
You won't be using someone as they're probably in the same position as you if you think about it.
You gotta know that they won't take as much offense as you think if you call it off and you also gotta learn to to accept that this might happen to you a couple of times and that it's just normal.
What you had with your ex was special but you both know that you grew apart from each other and wanted different things from life. Cherish what you had, don't be ashamed of how things turned out and look forward to the rest of your life.
Most importantly to remember that he'll always care about you and that he wants nothing more than for you to find happiness and peace in life.1