We were together 2 months. I told him I expect to be proposed to and that he would adopt my son. He said he is open to the idea but only when he is ready. I said if he didn't promise that now then I would go find some other guy who would. Then he said I am with him for the wrong reasons if adopting my son is the most important reason for getting married. Then he dumped me.
Boyfriend dumped me because I said he would have to adopt my son?
What Guys Said 16
Wow, too soon too demanding. I would dump you too. You are only looking for a provider and substitute husband and father to pay your bills.0
Bottom line, if you are a person with a child it is going to be more difficult to get a single person with no kids to want a long term relationship with you. Your pool of possible guys will be smaller. There's nothing you can do about it, just try your best.1
You've only been together for two months and you're already telling him about marriage and adoption? That is way too early1
well a relationship relies on both parties getting what they need.
sounds like he entertained what you were offering him, and decided it wasn't what he wanted.
on a personal level, i would never demand someone adopt my child after 2 months of dating. that person is potentially going to be the parent of that kid, they better be the best damn mother/father i can find.0
dont blame him... you can't forve your kid on another guy like that. sorry but if he just wanted to be a step dad or even mommies new man and nothing more i think you should have respected his wishes1
Well, what did you expect?
Your mistakes aren't for others to fix.2
good man, sounds like he dodged a bullet3
Because he felt like he's being forced into marrying you and adopting your son.
Would've done the same if I'm in his place.0
Too soon for that conversation, I think.1
Nah that too much work to take care of someone else's mis0
I would have done the same thing.1
U did wrong thing0
You brought up marriage at to months that's relationship suicide0
What Girls Said 10
I would have dumped you too. You made an unrealistic expectation way to early. Letting him know that you want those things is fine, but demanding that he promise you that after only 2 months of dating is where it went wrong. You barely know each other.2
He wasn't sure that he was OK with looking after someones elses kid, and you were getting pushy with your chains. I'd have ran, too.0
He was right. That is all. He can be lucky to dump you in time. Your are very agressive and aren't humble at all.2
He should have lol
I mean you did say that if he's not going to promise he is gonna do it, you are gonna find another guy. So he kinda did half of the job for you by dumping you.
Now go do what your promised and find another guy.0
Well he has a point. You demanded a lot from him. 2 months is a lot. The poor guy got scared away.2
You simply demanded too much too soon.
I sincerely hope he finds someone less domineering.3
Are you trolling?1
You cannot force him to do such a life changing decision/commitment/responsibility. It has to be coming from him directly for him to decide if he wants to even propose to you or let alone adopt your son. You do not rush things like this. I know you want a father figure for your son but you just cannot obligate people.1
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