My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago after being together 8 months. Things hadn't been going so well the last month and a bit. During the relationship he had lied to me twice. There was love of course but he wasn't much into communicating when their were issues and we just wernt on the same page with priorities. He was a little selfish and just had too many bad habits plus he lied to me and kept the fact he had started drinking a secret from me. When I guessed and confronted him he admitted he had also been drinking vodka out of a flask which he kept in the car when he went out to have a cigarette. He was also constantly buying beer and going through those pretty quickly. He has previously been in rehab for drinking issues almost 2yrs ago for 11 mths which is why I'm so touchy about the whole thing. I felt like I was always the one buying food to make dinners, his financial contributions were very unequal in comparison to mine. Every 2nd weekend he would have his children over which I didn't mind, I have a young child as well however the bulk of the food for all the kids was mainly funded by me, he would occasionally chip in. Everytime we went out, it would seem I was always the driver using my car.
He was coming on a holiday with me and my family, he had managed to save a small amount for spending money and what he had he was using here to buy his energy drinks and then went and used some of it for a 6 pack of beer. When I asked him why he needed to buy alcohol the day before our holiday he got smarmy with me and said it was his money and I'm not his mother. I said to him that his priorities were not in the right place as he should have been saving that money for Bali so we could afford to do more things together rather than spending it here on luxury items such as the beer. I knew then in that moment our relationship was not the priority in his life.
Most Helpful Guy
In my opinion the short answer to your question is yes, you did the right thing.
It sounds like he has many issues that would make a good relationship almost impossible. Lying obviously is a very big one. Alcohol abuse is another. That puts tremendous strain on a relationship. His lack of responsibility (not making good choices, not paying for his share of your expenses) is another. A relationship should be between two equal adults and it sounds like what you had was more like parent-child where you took care of him. I think that any of those things would make it hard for you to be happy in a relationship with him and all of them make me think that the answer to your question is not just a simple yes, but absolutely yes.
There are responsible, mature guys around. I think you'd be much better off with one of them. Hopefully you can find one soon.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm not even going to read through this, I don't need to:
The fact that you even thought about ending it at all means that you weren't completely happy. So yes, you did the right thing.1