OK here it goes...
I got together with my ex boyfriend just over 2 years ago. We started the same course at university together but split up 6 months after we started. Although it was awkward at first (obviously because we had to see one another in lectures etc). We split up basically because we were always arguing. 2 months later, he got with a girl and has admitted he only did it to try and make me feel jealous. He's had 2 "casual" relationships with other girls during the time at uni, these were on and off whilst still seeing me, but he has just admitted that he's split up with his previous girlfriend because of the feelings he still has for me. Before he split up with his girlfriend I felt completely used and 2nd best because he'd sleep with me but didn't want to commit. Before him and his girlfriend splitting he mentally abused me, calling me all the names under the sun, things like "fat bitch" " "no on wants you" basically making me feel like sh*t.
We've put all the behind us now, although I do forgive never forget. He's now wanting a relationship with me and its not what I want, I want to be friends however I don't see it working and whenever I tell him this he gives me attitude. We speak to each other every single day and see each other every single day during term time so its really hard. This has been going on for months now and I want a resolution but I don't know where to go from here :( Any help will be hugely appreciated!
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Hi. You don't deserve anyone calling you names. He can't seem to decide what he wants and it sounds as if he's resorting to acting immature and calling you names. You don't need or deserve that.
The hard part is being in class with him and seeing him knowing that you do like him. If you give it time you will move on and find somebody better than him. It just takes time.
What you don't want is to be 5 or 10 years down the line in a relationship the way, or worse, than things have been. My advise is to get out now before you find yourself that far down the road and possibly with kids and property.
I don't think that anybody calling you names like you described is the way to start a relationship. Give it time to get over him and somebody you deserve will come along.
It sounds like you know what you want. Now you just have to Nike it and get what you want.
Good luck, you deserve it,