I have no idea what guys think, so please help out people!
I met this guy several times, just before I was leaving University and things were going well. However, I had trust issues; I'd got screwed around by a guy a month before and I had problems at home (normally I held the fort, but cos I was away I was helpless).
So I left Uni, thinking that nothing would happen this guy, even though I vaguely mentioned visiting him in a few weeks. Like the previous guy, I was convinced he'd move onto somebody else during the summer (as he had a reputation for doing so) and I became quickly involved with another guy named Phil. We had a whirlwind relationship, and I foolishly updated my status on Facebook to: “In a Relationship.”
To my surprise, the guy from Uni sent a text: “Er what the hell?”
I explained myself pretty badly, and he became very annoyed. I rang up my friend and asked why he was so bothered. My friend said that the Uni guy genuinely liked me, which was rare. I felt guilty, as I knew things could have been brill between us.
However, I numbed the feeling and concentrated on home-life and my “Relationship” with Phil, which ended badly. I deeply regret ever being with him.
After splitting up with Phil, the guilt resurfaced so I sent Uni guy a message apologizing for treating him unfairly. He never replied, simply because he didn't know what to put.
I returned to University for a few days, and asked to meet Uni guy for a coffee. He agreed and I told him everything because I respected him, not cos I wanted to get back with him. He really appreciated it and said “normally I would hold a grudge against you, but because you're being nice I forgive you.” I decided to be honest and replied: “I'm not going to lie, I do still like you and I hope perhaps in the long-run we could see each other again.”
He admitted he still liked me, but said he was a lot more “cautious,” and would prefer if we just hung out; mainly with friends.
This guy still feels a bit bitter. Yes, I messed him around but it wasn't because of him. It was me, but it isn't what I'm really like: I was going through some sh*t at the time, and he seems to understand.
Do you think I still have a chance with him?
Most Helpful Guy
You have a good chance. He's still around. I don't think he's not bitter just worried you will find a reason to bail. Your actions will speak louder than words.0