There's always this thing I find with people. When you cheat our society anyway tells you you're supposed to feel guilty. I just wonder if there's any of you all who don't besides me. My friends don't approve generally, some of them agree with me though. I'm a believer in "what they don't know won't hurt them." I guess I 'll get called a whore for this but let me explain what's going on right now. I have one guy who I've been in an official relationship with for a very long time. I guess he is the one that people would see as the main course ya know? We have helped each other through some intense sh*t, we lived together for a while, etc. I genuinely can say that I love him and would do (and have done) things for him that I wouldn't do for very many people on this earth. Now on to my side dishes. How many? Too many to go through here. I do cheat A LOT and I'd say I have been cheating on him for a large portion of our relationship. By cheat I mean have sex with other men and spend time with them. Lots of sex though mainly. I think in my mind I'm separating the love, friendship, romance, etc. I have with him from the sex I have with these other men. I do have sex with him still but I don't love these other guys that I'm f***ing as well. It's like my heart belongs to him and that's our relationship and I would never betray that emotional devotion I have to him (though I do believe you can be in love with more than one person at a time but I'm just not) but I still feel like my body should be free.That's kind of why I don't regret cheating or feel guilty. I think if I don't stop and he somehow finds out then I'll be devastated that he left me though. Anyone else out here in cyber land agree with me ? It's fine if you don't, I don't expect many people to understand me. I'm just putting this out there for consideration that's all.
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Society is telling you to feel guilty? No no no, your significant other is the one hurt by your actions that should make you feel guilty. What's this have anything to do with "society?". If you talked to your boyfriend about this, and he's okay with you having sex with other men while in a relationship with him, then that's obviously fine it's yours and his choice then. But if he is hurt by your actions it shouldn't matter how -you- feel on it, the person you love is being crushed by what you are doing, that alone should either make you stop, or never do it in the first place. I'll be honest, I'd be very hurt if my girlfriend cheated on me, and if she said she loved me, I'd call her a liar and show her the door. If she really loved me, she wouldn't have had the ability to hurt me in such a way, thus I would not believe her.
"What they don't know won't hurt them" only works until they find out, then it turns around and becomes more hurtful you are keeping things secretive, which violates a big need in many people's relationships, trust.
Again, I only agree with you if your relationship is open to these things, both people know and accept what the other is doing.3
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