My ex and I split up a week ago. Difficult reasons, I initiated the break up, but wanted time to think on it. My ex made the decision to end it. He said he still loved me and he does still want to be with me. I feel the same. We have spoke on & off this week, and he decided not to give it another go, after speaking with him he says he was sure, but he isn't now. I am giving him time to think.
Do you think sending him a letter of exactly how I feel is a good idea, or will it make it worse?
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Oh Lord No! Men don't respond to words. A guy opens up a long letter and he will be on the defense way before the first sentence. He expects drama ahead. Guys usually don't really get into our feelings and if you tell him before he is ready, it's going to backfire, I would bet on it.
Give him his time, let him come to you, then he will be ready and willing to hear about your feelings, but if you voice them before, you might as well be sending a letter to a blind man. Timing is everything if you want a guy to listen.
Also what about how he feels? What if he doesn't feel the same way you do? Will you still respect that and let him be? I think sometimes we forget we are not the only ones with feelings in these relationships. His feelings are just as important, even if they are different from yours.0