Ive always heard these methods like No contact. but do they really work? Its going to be 3 weeks this Friday and I miss her so much. I did things that pushed her away, mainly being jealous. She said she still loved and cared about me (friends), she asked friends how I was doing a few days in a row, when I texted her she replied, when I called, she picked up and we talked. But she has not called me yet. I don't know if I'm reading into signs to see if she still Loves me or not. but last time we talked on the phone she did this grunt, she would always to this same grunt when we were in deep conversation and I would cut it short like she didn't want this to end. Now I hear she's doing better did I lose her for good?
Sorry for writing this incoherent question, but I'm seriously confused and lost without her, she was my lover and best friend.
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Firstly I feel your pain. I know what its like. But you both need more time to sort yourselves out until you can both talk rationally. At the moment, you're both working through a lot of really tricky emotions and chances are things will backfire one way or another.
I know it sounds a bit catch 22 at the moment, but give it another 3 weeks or so and use this time to work on your jealousy and any other issues you might have had during your relationship. I'm still reeling from my break up 3 weeks ago, and I know there's no way I can talk to my ex rationally at the moment, I tried the other day but it didn't work.
Use this time for yourself, get your head and your body back together. I know it feels like you've lost half of yourself but trust me mate, work through it. You'll be better on the other side. Until you feel that you can talk without getting upset or angry or whatever else, best to leave it for now. I'm not saying give up, but its not the time right now.
For now, listen to happy songs, watch silly comedies and do what you can to take your mind off her. One way or another, you'll come out better and stronger on the other side.
Also the more you contact your ex, the more desperate you'll look. The trick is here, is to play a bit cool, make her do a bit of the work. She'll come back if she wants to. Best of luck xxx0