would you go with them to put flowers on their grave? or would you refuse to go? would you even let them go? only asking because my dad died and my mom's new boyfriend doesn't want her to go out to the cemetery and put flowers on his grave.
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I would definitely go with them (provided that they wanted me to). When I'm with someone, I want to be there for them and support them. I want to show them that I respect the people in their life who they care about, both past and present. I might wonder if I'll be able to fill the shoes of their previous love, but I know that it's not about that---our love is something unique and special between us, and I can't compare that to someone's love with anyone else.
I guess I can understand how some people might feel threatened by the feelings that their spouse may have for their deceased spouse, but no one has the right to "not let" them visit their grave. Going with them might feel awkward, so I think it's okay to just say that you don't feel comfortable going, but not letting your spouse go is just wrong and controlling.1