Hey guys and girls, I am going to call my ex today after no contact for 30 days. I'm in the mindset of moving on don't worry but obviously I still care and want to give things another go if its possible.
Any idea's on what I should say when I call her. I don't want her to feel threatened by the phone call but I do want to ask if she's like to meet up for lunch at some point over the weekend?
What would you ladies like to hear after not speaking to your ex for a while, providing you still have feelings for them?
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coming from a guy who was in exactly your position more than once with my ex (who I've dated for 4 years), you are definitely not over her whatever you say. No matter who broke with who, she is going to have every intension that you are trying to stir things up again. Meet up for coffee. Getting food is to much time spent together. If she does decide to meet up with you, you actually meet up, don't offer to drive. When you talk, you can talk about anything and everything besides your relationship. Don't bring it up, don't say I miss you, and don't mention your hook ups with other girls. If youd like you can mention that youve been on a date or two. just to show her you tried moving on. this could show that youve went on a date and ended up thinking about her. but don't go to overboard with it. all you have to say is that you thought about her and was thinking about something fun you guys did together. when you are talking over coffee its going to be short because its only been 30 days so let her talk and show her that you are listening. don't day dream. look in her eyes and really listen. if things go well, (and I know you will ask so ill tell you, you will know when things go well, its that gut feeling and that smile on her face), ask if she would like to meet up again. if she brings up the relationship, don't point any fingers and calmly talk about it. if she asks you about getting back together just simply say that you would be interested in starting over and ask her on an actual date. good luck. and side note if you were truly over her you wouldn't be posting this. any questions add me. been through this a million times my friend0
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