I just found out today that my ex is now seeing (not official though) a girl. We have been broken up for only a month and he more or less broke up with me and two days after we broke up he professed his love for me and how it will never fade. Then I said I needed time to think. I told him the next day that I loved him and wanted to make this work. Then he said that he now needed time! AHHH! Talk about mixed signals! Then I found out today that 5 days after him and I broke up and 3 days after he told me he loved me, he meet this girl...how can he move on so fast? I feel like a fool, because for a month I have been crying over him and he is getting his jollies on with a stranger! I'm hurt and confused. Any advice or support is much needed and appreciated.
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The exact same thing happened to me. I dated a girl for a year and we broke up, then two days later, she's already seeing another guy. I was crushed and felt like the past year was a lie and a waste, not to mention the obvious self esteem issues that followed. It's a very rough situation. About 2 weeks after the break up, she wants to talk and says all the usual BS - "You were the greatest thing ever, I regret every mistake, I want to go back and stop all this, I still love you, blah blah blah."
She then told me she wanted to get back together and said she would allow me all the time in the world to think about it, because obviously I was cautious. The next day, she said it wouldn't work out... At first I just accepted it, but then I got angry and realized that the entire situation was really messing with my emotions. I cut all ties with her. I ignore her when I see her, removed every present memory of her, took her number out my phone, everything... Now I'm focusing on school, work, and healing. People are right, exercise helps. Go running and listen to your favorite songs, it's a great way to take your mind off things...
Moral of the story I suppose - He's not worth your time to be upset about. Sure, you WILL be upset, you just broke up and he's seeing someone else, that's awful. But is that really the kind of person you see yourself with later down the road? Do the necessary healing and crying, but be thankful that it's over. Obviously, he has some major emotional flaws and just has NO clue what he wants. That's immaturity and lack of worldly / life experience. There's plenty of guys out there and a ton of them aren't crazy and seemingly emotionless... Get over the break up, get your life back on track, and everything will work out the way it's supposed to. =)0