this girl I've been kinda seeing for the last few months tells me she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now, and she knows that I like her as more than a friend. anyways I thought she was worth waiting for and I'm a nice guy, I always do things for her and I'm always there for her. but recently I'm beginning to just think, nothing will ever happen, no matter how much I show her, not just tell her, show her through numerous actions the type of guy I am, one that will be there for her through hard times, support her, etc etc it seems she's the same like all girls. just stringing me along because she likes the attention and maybe waiting for better.
i guess tonight was just a wake up call, I'm done. another one bites the dust, a good guy giving up because a girl doesn't realize what a great guy she could of had as a boyfriend. I know all those sayings, "if she's worth it, wait till she's ready" and I've been super patient, but I'm also just a man for god's sake, I can't wait half a year, a year, years for her to be ready and in the meantime treat her life a girlfriend while she treats me like a back burner friend. that's like going to work without getting a paycheck... so basically I'm about to tell her tomorrow, I'm done, I'm finally giving up, you win.
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Sorry, but you screwed yourself. You're in the "friend zone" and there isn't much hope there - it's a hole that more than likely you cannot dig yourself out of - you see, you gave yourself to her while asking for nothing in return, so of course she took you for granted. It's like when girls post up on here about how their retarded F-buddy doesn't appreciate them - of course he doesn't appreciate you, you sold yourself to him as a whore. The same is true for you; you did everything for her without asking for anything in return, and kept doing it even after she told you that she "doesn't want a relationship".
Here's what you do:
First off, quit seeing her, helping her, calling her, talking online whatever - if she contacts you that is okay but don't do a damned thing for her. You are not her robot, you are not a slave nor are you a household appliance - be a man. Secondly, start dating - spend some time looking at the girls you were ignoring because you were hoping for Ms. Beautiful Manipulator to come to her senses (which hopefully you now realize isn't gonna happen - if it does, buy lottery tickets!). These are things you MUST DO because if you don't you will still find yourself stuck with her and unhappy, and you don't want that now do you?
If you do this you'll find yourself meeting other girls and having fun again, and she will be searching for some other sap to talk to on the phone at night.