We have been in a vicious cycle of fights and arguing, he doesn’t want to do this anymore and who am I to hold him back? I love him with all my heart, but I know I can’t make him happy and I’m dragging him down.
We haven’t broken up yet, but he said he thinks it’d be better to be friends, that I was his best friend in the world and that he’d support me endlessly. I know he cares for me, that at least at one point we were in love, but being his friend would break my heart even more.
I don’t want to be his friend, I want all of him, but he’s not willing to give me that anymore. but more importantly, I want his happiness- more than anything, and I know Im not making him happy anymore, I can see him suffocating in this relationship, and I know that I have to let him go.
He keeps telling me he wants to be a part of my life, that he’ll never just leave me, that I mean too much to him to ever do that. But I can’t do that to myself, seeing him and not being with him would feel artificial and a lie.
I told him that I couldn’t ever just see him as a friend, that I love him in a different way, but he wanted to convince me that we could make it work- that it’d be better. I want to leave for him, for his happiness and because I love him. But I can’t stay his friend because I love myself too much to put myself through that pain.
I don’t know how to say these things to him, and be sure he knows I’m coming from a place of love and caring. I don’t know how to explain that although he’s my best friend, I can’t just be his friend. I don’t want to hurt him, but I know he’s hurting being with me. I only want to do this because I love him and want the best for him- because that’s what he deserves.
Most Helpful Guy
I have nothing to say because i`m in a similar but different situation but i`ll say this. When we did sorta break up my depression came back worse than the first time i had it (i beat it once). It is the fucking worst thing imaginable so what i suggest is never actually say you broke up to each other or friends. Just be friends witought saying it. Your relationship will fluctuate a lot until eventually you will get back to the friendship state of being. Putting up titles like lovers and then having to take them down is harsh, it`s better to just not think about what you are to him or what he is to you and be friends.
Most Helpful Girl
You can't have it both ways. In what way is he is giving his all in the relationship? If you mean sexually, forget it. That should ONLY be done in a marriage. Other than that, what more do you want from him? There is nothing you can do except say it's over. If it's not working, then it wasn't meant to be. A great romantic couple must also be good friends. If you both value that then what is the problem being his friend? Just end it and move on. Stop being selfish. If you have differents values it must end no matter what you feel. And you have to do it dispite what you feel. You both made it clear that it can't work. Do something, or else he will by eventually finding somebody else.