I have an ex who I dated a few years ago. We parted ways due to bad timing and he got a rebound girl a few weeks after. Well he has been with her ever since. The thing is he contacts me ALL THE TIME for the past few years, he can't let "us" go yet still dates her. I've never given him the idea that I'm a back up girl because I clearly have told him I would never wait around for him nor date him while he is with her. Yet he contacts me trying to talk about us, his job, his family(something you would do with your GIRLFRIEND). What baffles me is how he could be a great actor and act like everything is okay when he is with her. He dreams about us, thinks about us, etc etc etc. Yeah it could be him lying to me but at the end of the day for what? He gains nothing out of this. He said he would leave her since he knows he would be happier with me but in my books I don't want THAT to be what brought us together. What should I do? I love him and its really sad to see that he is lying to himself and being selfish.
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who said he wasn't doing this while he was with you?
dont get me wrong I think he's in love with you, but why if he's so sure does he still date this girl?
why hasn't he left her and taken more interest in you...shouldnt you be telling him "shame on you for doing this to your girlfriend" he shouldn't be leading this girl on if this is how he feels, he's selfish...thats why I asked the first question...honestly tho think about that
i think you need to tell him he needs to figure out the situation with his current girlfriend adn to take some time alone before he tells you how he really feels...this isn't fair for you and it certainly isn't fair to his current gf...think of all the stuff he's hiding from her, that he could have hidden from you...i dunnooooo I'm just sayin...2