Long story short, i Got in contact with a girl from Norway ( im from Denmark, 1H 15min flight away) we endes up clicking very Well and basically talked over the PC every Day for hours. After about 4 month, we agreed on meeting, so she came to Denmark. We Stayed at an apartment for 4 Days and every was basically like a Dream, when she left to go back home i was so empty and i felt like i wanted to be with her all the time, same did she. We end up talking about where this relationship were heading, and agreed on I started joking around with that i wanted to just Come to norway right away, but she had exams, so we endes up waiting 2.5 month before i came. Every Day we had the same contact, but this time telling eachother that we loved eachother. Fast forward to the time where i get to norway, first Day was a bit weird, i kinda expected more “happyness” but we still kissed and drive to the apartment, things kinda warmed up over Night and it felt like it was back to normal by bedtime. The Day after, we go to eat and by some liquor since we were going to a party with We went back to her parents to whom she introduced me and everything was great. We partied and had a great time. When it was bed time, she basically just turn her back to me without saying anything and goes to sleep. On the Way home the next Day she was comepletely silent, when we Got out of the car, she breaks it to me saying that she lost feelings for me 2 weeks before i came, and that she just isn't feeling it. Fast forward until now around 3 weeks after, we’ve spoken about a lot and she says a lot of it is commitment issues of hers, and that i was a bit clingy and pushing, and money / time was a Big factor. She says she still miss the time in Denmark and that she miss me and our long talks and such. I still want her... Is it a bad idea to send her flowers on valentines Day, trying to start over without commitments and pushyness? Im a bit lost tbh... Thanks in advance to anybody ready this!
Most Helpful Girl
Long distance relationships are super tricky to make work, as separate lives in separate places without physically growing together side by side can be a challenge. It seems as she was hit by reality in knowing this as you were about to leave and That's why she distanced herself from becoming deeply attached. It all really boils down to the both of you in where your feelings are with one another and if you're both able to work out the challenges of the distance between the two of you.
I'd face time everyday, constantly chat, see if things between the two of you spark up again or not. Hold up on the flowers until you're truly certain that you both want the same thing from each other.1
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Most Helpful Guy
Oh man i'm a florist and that One got me a bit speechless.. She seems to like you and She told you as it is and that is a good thing, i think you should do it, but don't go too far with it, if you trully like her and want to wait for her then give her the flowers but make sure that you accept her opinion and that you are willing to build your relationship with a Nice foundation, no house is built without a strong foundation to hold it together :)2
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