My parents want to divorce and tol me and my sister that we'll be living with my grandparents and give for adoptions our beloved dogs. I haven't stopped crying because it's hard to see two people that loved each other separate affecting their daughters and dogs too. When we got our dogs they said we were going to keep them and never let them go, but now? the fu**? ugh
Most Helpful Guy
Hi. First off, I'm sorry for what you, your sister, and your dog has to go through with your parent's divorce. I'm sure it's not easy to course through this situation, and I want to tell you something, "It's not you, nor your sister's, nor your dog's fault that they are deciding to split up." It may seem like it and you'll question yourself by asking, "Have we done something wrong?" "What could I have done to make them happy?" "Do they not love me/us?" "Why are they betraying our family?" when you're feeling down and out, but most of the time, that's not the case. I'm sure that you and your sister love your parents very dearly and them to you two as well. But this is their adult problem and their decision on the matter. Know that they Love you.
My parent's got divorced when I was in Jr. High, though it didn't hit me as hard as your situation, I knew it was going to come sooner or later. They were just arguing all the time, finances were very short, and they weren't feeling it anymore. I understood because I had to grow up fast in my family environment. But I knew that it wasn't because of us kids in the house. They still love us, as we just live on with our lives. Don't let it get to you too much. IT's a shocker, but it'll pass once you understand their relationship dynamic.
Like any relationship that goes through a break up, there are a vast myriad numbers of reasons why it didn't work. If you really want to have some closure on your parent's divorce, I would suggest to you to have a open communication talk with the both of them at the same time. Or separate - depending on your relationship dynamic with each of them. But when you do, you have to keep your emotions stable because if you start getting heated, or throw a tantrum, or ball your eyes out in front of them, it's not going to be the conversation that you would like it to be and it'll make it even more comfortable for them. It'll suck, but you have to be strong for them as well. I'm sure they are going through their own mess to filter things through. Be the listener to understand, not the talker who puts in opinions to be understood as this'll be selfish on your part. Add in what you want after you understand everything. It'll be hard to be selfless and listen, but it's the right thing to do. "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." After that, you do what you can to move on, for both you and your sister. I hope my perspective can shed some light. =)1
Most Helpful Girl
My parents were divorced when I was about 5.
I don't in what way has it affected me but I still have amazing parents even though they are not together.
My mother remarried a few years ago (11 years ago) and I have a half-sister. She's one of the most important people in my life.