He taped them having sex (she doesn't know) several times and has been showing a bunch of people. He cheats on her frequently and is just an all around ass. We don't really get along very well but I still think someone should tell her obviously no one else is going to. I doubt she would believe me but at least I wouldn't feel guilty for not saying anything.
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You're probably right that she won't believe you.
When I was in high school, a guy I dated taped us and showed it to the entire football team and baseball team (one of which my brother was included). It was the most humiliating thing, but one of my friends had warned me. . .
I also have a friend who doesn't think her husband cheats on her, yet he's given her an STD and he's even asked me (she's supermodel material) to sleep with him. . .guys are scum, but you really should try to tell her. . .she probably won't believe you, but when you tell her, make sure to also tell her how you care about her wellbeing & how much you care about your friendship with her. . .that you care about her. Adding that bit of info to the pathetic reality of how her boyfriend's treating her will help her realize it and let it sink in. . .
This worked when I was to stubborn to listen to my best friend. . .I hated her for a week, but after her words swirled in my head a few nights, I woke up one morning and I knew she'd never hurt me or tell me something for no reason. . .She was right and I have never doubted her since.
You're her friend. . .if she knows that you're truly her friend, (or if it takes her a week to realize it), then she'll believe you. . .