First of all we have been together for 4 years and he's Muslim so he is not allowed to have female friends. He forbids me to have guy friends so I don't. I respect that.
The red flag though is that he has female friends on his MSN chat list. I found out accidentally while I was checking his MSN profile. This new feature on MSN allows you to see who your friends have added recently. I found out he has a lot of women on his MSN chat list and most of them come from or nearby the city he moved to recently, 2 hours from the city I live.
He tells me I'm the only girl for him and wants to marry me. But while he says all that his actions don't match... I haven't seen him in months (traveling is expensive and I lost my job so money is tight..he is jobless as well. Plus we agreed long ago to save money to move in together.). I can't remember the last time we had sex. He calls me 1 time in 2 weeks from his friends phone and doesn't have a phone where I can reach him since his last one broke. Also he has been online on MSN a few times without letting me know.
What should I do? Is he cheating? Should I confront him?
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I come from a muslim family am not religious nor consider myself a muslim anyway... but I need to correct you and tell you that No in Islam it is allowed to have female friends as long as you do not have sex with them or romantically involved and sex on the other hand is not allowed if you re not married. You re saying that you two have sex so that is a sin in Islam and a bigger sin than just having female friends!
Honestly, no he doesn't seem to be cheating on you, because having friends on MSN is normal, I have tons of guy friends on the messenger and on the MSN profile page I only have like 3 or 4.
You should be able to trust him and if there is no trust then there is no point of this relationship.
If he lost his job recently that doesn't mean that he is cheating on you because he doesn't call you enough.. its pretty expensive to call someone everyday specially when you had just lost your job.. you could use emails till things get better and maybe he could get a new cell phone that is cheap or something to use for the mean time.
Wait for him to contact you and when he does ask him if he could get a new cell so you could reach him, then you could actually tell him that you re allowed to have friends just as he is allowed to be friends with these chicks or whoever.
Long distance relationships are hard and all you need is patience, trust and communication.
Try not to be controlled by him from now and on.