I am curious, I have heard a lot of people say why you shouldn't be friends after a break up. Just cut them out of your life, and such like that. But I have found that me and my ex (she broke up with me) have gotten along alright. She has begun dating another guy (I have never personally met this guy, she does not talk to me about him ever). We hang around once a week or once every two weeks. I enjoy her company, she enjoys my company. The reason why we broke up was a long list (as girls usually do to try and justify) but after time I know its because 1) I never protected her the way she wanted to, 2) I am not a out going type of guy, I hang around friends but I don't drink that much and my parties are usually small (basically felt held back) 3) Don't fit that well into her family (they are very social people, mine are blue collar workers). I am not 100% sure, but that is what I have gathered from what she had told me. I have my emotion's in check and really not as interested in a drunk party girl who values that more then a person for who they are, also my life is not suited for a girl friend. I don't have a lot of money and I am very busy and focused on my degree. What do you guys think of my question, what's your opinion of friends with an ex? and also what about my situation?
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You've said it- your life isn't suited for a girlfriend- for responsibility of maintaining a relationship. She's still friends with you, hoping it'll turn around. I have never stayed friends with an ex or even a guy I met and dated for a little bit.
I think guys are friends with ex's for various reasons. Girls stay friends with ex's because they get something from the guy-albeit someone to fix her car, a guy to just chill with, free dinner, etc. Or maybe she's just too nice to end the relationship entirely.
I guess the question could be flipped. Why do you still hang out with her especially knowing she's dating another guy and the fact she broke up with you? Why are you still sticking around?0