Long story short. I dated my ex for 4 years. She went overseas to study for a year. About 2 months into the trip she broke up with me claiming she needed time to be alone and find herself. BS. She had met a new guy, started dating him right away. Lied to me, treated me like dirt...blah blah. I crumbled at first, begged and pleaded. She just got meaner and harsher. Eventually I pulled myself together and implemented strict no contact. She has consistently emailed me, but I stopped replying about 4 months ago. Now, after almost a year, she is coming home for a short holiday. She is still with the guy she cheated on me with. She wants to "meet up". Now usually I'd tell her to 'f' off. The only thing is the last time I saw her, she was my girlfriend. And I almost feel I need to see her in the flesh to put this whole things behind me. But I'm not fully over her yet..What should I do? And girls, why is she even bothering to get in contact with me?
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Allow me to add my 10 cents :) You may not believe but my situation pretty similar, therefore I think I may understand you. About 2 months ago my girlfriend left to 1.5 months vacation to her country (visiting her family there). After 1 week she broke up with me (on Skype) saying she still loves me, but need her time and space...whatever...we were not in contact for almost 1 month. I came to the airport to meet her (naively thinking she will be nicely surprised), but instead saw her with her X-bf. This is not end of the story...few days after I also get known (from her mum) that she is pregnant from this guy...this is also not the end though...Next day she is calling me crying and saying she is confused, does not understand how this all happened and still does not know what to do...also she asked me if I will consider to take her back...It was our first and the last conversation since she came back...
Now, of course I understand your bitterness and frustration...but I put some thinking into this and first of all my conclusion was that she didn't cheated on me. She did ask for a break up. The problem was mine - that I convinced myself to believe that this is not for real. I think in your situation it is similar - sorry to say it, but I think your girlfriend didn't cheat on you. She did what is was good for her at this moment, you can not blame her for this. I know this is hurts, but try to look on things from her perspective. She did what she needed to do. It could be cheating if she didn't break from you before. I think this is our problem that we still have some not realsitic hopes after being dumped.
Now, regarding meeting - I also have similar dilemma. So, first of all you should ask yourself what are your expectation from this meeting ? What is the best outcome that you can expect (for you). Is it achievable ? IMHO, she wants to see you - just to make herself feel better, no one like to feel a "hoer". So what I did, I installed call/sms filtering application on my mobile - I can see if she called/texted, but for her I am disconnected. I know that she knows how and where to find me, so at least if she wants to meet me, I would expect her to make some additional effort. If she not willing to do this effort, I think this meeting is useless. You will gain nothing from it, only more pain.
Hope it helps a little bit...0