Long story - short. My ex-gf broke up with me (on Skype) one week after she left to 1.5 months vacation to her country.
I want to mention that although we had our problems and may be were not the perfect couple, we loved each other, and even had sex just one hour before she left (if it means something nowadays).
My point that she left as my "legitimate" girlfriend. So, after one week she asked me for time and space, which I unarguably accepted,
without begging, clinging or anything like this. So after that we were not in contact for almost 4 weeks (I also went abroad for 2 weeks during this time) and respected what she asked for (although I was dying to talk with her, couldn't stop thinking about her for a second, was going to toilet with my phone and frankly was even crying...but she didn't know anything of this).
So eventually, I came to airport to meet her, naively thinking she will be nicely surprised,
but she came back with her last X-bf (from last 3 years relationship, by the way she always swear to me that there is nothing left between them). \
Day after I get known (from her mum) that she also (accidentally and probably unwanted) pregnant from him.
Day after she called me crying saying she is confused, don't know what happened and saying that she didn't cheated on me.
Also she accused me that all this happened, because I so easily accepted her break up suggestion and didn't contact her all this time - she felt unwanted and pushed away.
So my question are:
1) Does she has a point - did I contribute to this mess ? Apparently if I was acting differently all of this might not have been happen. On the other hand, I simply repsected her wish.
2) Is she cheated on me ? Again, apparently, not - she asked for a break and during this time she is a free person and can do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. But still, for some reason - I feel cheated.
I was expecting from her at least to talk to me, before she decided to get back to her last boyfriend.
Apparently she owes me nothing, but still, is it too much to ask from someone who just few weeks ago was talking about having children together ?
Your insight much appreciated
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I don't know much about relationships but from my friends telling me about stuff like this id say its not your fault. She broke up with you. She went to her X-bf and got pregnant. Basicly she made the choice and you can't take blame for her choices she's possibly just scared because well she is pregnant and accidently if I remember correctly. But you do deserve for her to at least talk to you about it. But if you still love her and think it's worth it try to help her.1