So I decided over 2 weeks ago to completely end all contact with my ex boyfriend for at least 30 days because I was always initiating contact. I wanted to respect his space. I finally accepted the break-up and wanted to begin healing. Well, I had seen his work van around town over the past couple of days (I hadn't seen it in almost a month). That kept me thinking of him and missing him, a bit more. So I had a sudden urge to just text Hi =). I Had no expectations that he would respond, but after a couple of hours of no response, I felt like I failed. After being used to contacting him, then working hard to stop, and doing well for 2 weeks, I slipped. I'm wondering what he thought of that random text. I do hope that I hear from him again. He broke up with me, but we never fought and there were no burned bridges. His roommates' girlfriend is my friend and she said he isn't seeing anyone. It would be nice to know if there's a chance he will come around and contact me again.
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Hey there. First of all- I'm sorry you're going through this now, I've been going through the same thing. RIGHT, so you feel like you failed you did better than I did before hand. We'd agreed on no contact for a month and within a week I sent him a text saying 'I miss you :('- he didn't reply...it sucked immensly. Anyway I went back to no contact after that- although I felt completely pathetic and a fool and a week before we were meant to contact each other- boom. He texted me. Nothing much, just to say that 'I hope you're doing OK and your exams are treating you decently. Hope to hear from you soon. X'- so never fear, he almost certainly WILL contact you again.
However, I must stress that if you do get together again it may not happen instantly again. It's been 3 months since we ended no contact and he's only now seeming to come around to the idea that not giving us another go was a mistake. Since we ended contact HE is the one who has contacted me and you should to some degree do the same thing, it puts you bck in a position of power and you don't feel so desperate (I know from experience). It will be very painful, I won't lie- when we go a week or two with no contact I go almost insane with wanting to contact him but like I said- it seems to be producing the desired effect. For most men, they won't necessarily fight for something unless they think that they are losing you for good- they don't want that.
Anyhoo. Try and stick out the next few weeks, he probably will contact you and if at the end of the no contact he hasn't there are no laws saying that you can't just drop him a line saying 'Hye, how're you doing?'
Best of luck!1