So my girlfriend and I dated for about two months. It was a good relationship but it we started to drift away towards the end of it. Not because we didn't like each other, but because we were both really busy and it was hard to make time for each other. We broke up because there was a weekend which she was gone away with a large group of people and ended up flirting with this other guy. She told me she wanted to break up because she didn't feel like she was as committed as she should be after two months. I know this is bs, but what ever.
Anyway, there initially wasn't anything between them, but they've taken a liking to each other and flirt a lot, and are even going to homecoming together. Usually I would just move on, but there are a couple of reasons why I haven't yet.
First, I still like her- a lot. I kind of screwed up the relationship, in that I didn't put as much effort into it as I should have. But I realize this mistake and know how to make it much better if we get back together. We have tons in common and connected REALLY well when we were together; we just weren't able to see each other as much as we would have liked to.
Second, she is a senior and the guy is a young sophomore, 14 going on 15. While they appear to like each other a lot, I'm not sure that this would materialize into anything since he is 2.5 years younger. I'm hoping this might be more of a fling (they're on a co-ed sports team together and see each other daily) that will end when their sports season is over here in about a month.
We're still friends and all (we talk pretty often, although I'm considering cutting down on this to try and make her a little curious as to what I'm up to), and I'm pretty sure she doesn't know I still like her.
What do you guys think? Do you think I have a chance or should I move on completely? If you think I have a chance, what do you recommend I do? Cutting off communication and making her jealous is a possible idea, but I'm worried that if I do that she'll end up forgetting about me and I'll kill my chances for good. There are times and things we can do to hang out until homecoming and their sports are over, but I'm worried that just hanging out will throw me into the "friend zone." Keep in mind that we never actually went out on a date while we were together, just hung out a lot at each others' houses and near our houses. I'm thinking maybe doing things together "as friends" will show her that I really can be a fun boyfriend and might be worth getting back with.
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well, you can try to get her back.
Chemistry dies out like a fire if you don’t stoke it once in awhile.
Humans have needs – both emotional and physical. They need to be caressed, held, hugged, kissed, listened to, flirted with, and desired.
Your relationship routine might have made your ex feel starved for whatever it was they didn’t get anymore – that very stuff that made your stomachs and hearts flutter when you first started dating. If he or she was starving, then chances are you weren’t getting everything out of the pairing that you wanted as well.
What were you lacking in the relationship? What was missing?
Most relationships don’t crumble because of one single issue. When one thing comes in between two people, they usually recognize it and work things out amicably – unless it’s a deal breaker like, “she wants kids and I don’t.”
You might even see the breakup as a result from one of the above issues while your ex would pinpoint something totally different. Maybe you thought it was the fact that you spent no time together, but he thought it was the nagging you did.
If you want to get your ex back, don’t do these things::
- Texting your ex will push her away – fast;
- Calling your ex multiple times a day shows neediness;
- Telling her to get back with you telegraphs insecurity;
- Writing letters to try to make her understand how you feel is
-Phoning her parents and try to convince them to talk
sense into her is a sure way to get ignored;
-Calling the new guy in her life and telling him to leave her
alone will instantly turn her against you
How to get her back?
Maybe this few tips will help you:
- Never look desperate – work on your self, you need to shine if you want to attract her back
- Start seeing other girls. That will wake uh her curiosity and insecurity (is possible that he has already move on!?)
- Go out together, do stuff together, but don’t ask her to get back, just have great time together, let she see how good it was in relationship
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All the best and good luck!