I know exes are exes for a reason, but I often think that if some time has passed and people have changed things could work a lot better the next time round.
so the good: It's been a while and the 2 people have had a big break from each other and dated other people (8 months).
The bad: The girl dated the guys friend in the meantime, and I know guys absolutely hate that, makes them move on and black list people, treat them like they are contaminated and have nothing more to do with them.
So I guess I'm asking, if you combined the good and the bad there, would you get back with someone you had a good relationship, even though some bad stuff happened later, if enough time had passed? would it depend how much you loved the person? Or do you just forget and move on from people who dated your friends without a second thought and never hurt or miss them again?
As a girl, I would give a guy another chance if I loved him enough and I'd cooled down from the event and he apologized and didn't upset my friend too much, but that's just me. tell me guys!
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I've been in this situation before. I dated a guy for a while and dumped him. Then I went on to date his friend. The entire time I was in the second relationship, the first friend I dated was working against me trying to covince the other guy to dump me for every little fight we had. Also it was a huge joke amongst all of them that I dated two friends. Eventually the second guy did break up with me, largely based on the influence of friends, and now I am blacklisted from that entire group - even though I became good friends with all of them. I learned never make that mistake again, never ever date a guy's friend. A) its wrong and B) they will never give you the time of day again and will look down on you. First, I drove two friends apart by dating them both. Then when I was out of the relationship, their friendship was strengthened by "bonding" over how they had both dated me and were both done with me. Biggest mistake of my life, and very very embarrassing. Never date a guy's friend. It's just wrong.0