I come from a very close knit family. We always handle our problems in a healthy way (usually no screaming and such).
I met this guy roughly 7 months ago and fell in love with him during those months. I started to notice that whenever he was stressed or angry he would get very snappy. For instance, if he was angry with his mom and I happened to call, he would snap at me. I told him that all of this bothered me...but he told me that he didn't come from a family like I did and that's all he knows. However, he said he would work on it since it bothered me.
Where do I draw the line between everyone having faults and a reason to leave the person for good? I love him so its hard, but being around a snappy person is hard as well.
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You sound like you are dealing with a really decision. If I were you, I would start making my decision by figuring out what I want from a relationship if I haven't done that already. I'm talking about really deep rooted needs that you want to fulfill and how you are going to achieve them. I say this because I am a really strong advocate of knowing yourself before trying to go out and filling a void that you cannot quite put your finger on. If you know yourself, then you will know for certain whether or not your relationship with other people are healthy and ultimately if you should leave them.
A second factor that would help me in your situation would be to see if there is any truth behind his statement that, "he didn't come from a family like I did and that's all he knows." A good way to see this is to watch how his father treats his mother. If he treats her with respect and dignity, then you know immediately that your guy friend is not being entirely truthful and might have anger issues that need to be addressed professionally.
But again, I don't feel like I can fully appreciate your situation from what you've described. All I can say is take some time for self-reflection and find out what you truly want from life. If he does not fit into your vision of the future you would like to have, and he is not willing to change or at least compromise, then you have to let him go. So far, I feel like there is some hope because he did vow to work on his behavior since it bothered YOU. That's definitely a good start since he seems to share your loving feelings and doesn't want to lose you over something as ridiculous as his temper. Just make sure he knows that if it comes down to it, you will walk away and never look back because his anger is unacceptable under any circumstance. I hope this helps and I wish you the best!1