Im a 34 female. I been married 10 years we have 3 kids. Sex has always been bad but I married him for love. Im never sexually satisfied. These past 3 years I really feel checked out of my relationship and this past year I find myself checking out other guys. I never did that before. My husband is aware of all of this as I been very honest. My husband is very happy in the relationship. I brought up divorce as I am so unhappy but truthfully I can't imagine life without him. He don't want a divorce either. I asked him for an open relationship. I feel guilty asking for this but I'm so unhappy. He don't want to do it. Then sometimes he says yes, then no. I told him I'm scared I might cheat on him. I just want to have satisfying sex. I need to be touched. I cry over this. I thought an open relationship could be an attempt to try something different. I feel I'm beeing selfish but I can live without sex anymore. I mean we have sex it's just so bad. I don't know what to do.
Open relationship, separation or divorce... I'm so confused?
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God gave us vibrators for a reason. As for "touching" he should be able to satisfy you in that way...1
I can see u love him and sex isn't everything, and he loves u so much that even he agreed on sometimes that u can have an open relationship, no guys/husband do that until they really care for Ur happiness.
Who will be there for u when u will be older in the late 40s then sex won't matter, only the care and love would, u just wanna get satisfaction in sex I get it, go and have with someone but I must tell you don't ever leave Ur husband, also think about your 3 kids, they would be devastated n they won't be able to get love from both parents together, always it will be in their mind that u guys are seperated.
Trust me Ur husband loves u more than u love him and that's very hard to get.
Prostitutes get sex all the time but they don't have a love life, although they wish for love but hardly someone comes out of blue and love a prostitute.
Don't divorce Ur husband, n think for a solution.1
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Divorce him. You don't love him, probably never did. You knew ahead of time the sex was unsatisfying. You CHOSE this guy, supposedly for love. Now you want permission to cheat. That's not love. You can't stop thinking about yourself long enough to value him and your marriage. You fucked up, and now the only right thing to do is leave and get a divorce. Let him find a woman who actually loves and values him while you go find someone who fucks you the way you want.1
Your at your sexual peek and you can only be unsatisfied for so long before it starts to create resentments give him a chance to please you tell him exactly what you need we need it spelled out for us sometimes make him read up on how to please a female and if he does and he still can't get you off then you might have to let him go because neither one of you should have to live unhappy you if you can't get your needs filled will continue to be unhappy and if you ask him for an open relationship and he really dont want it but you force him into it because he thinks it will make you happy then he is going to be unhappy so its kind of A win lose eather way sorry thats just my thoughts1
Find a sex therapist and have couples and singles sessions. It could shed light on what is actually going on with your marriage.2
Sex is a skill, like art, or music. No one is born good at it, though some (empathic, maybe?) seem to have a knack for it and pick it up quickly.
Sounds like your problem isn't a lack of sex, but a lack of touch. You say he's bad at it. how so? And what kind of feedback are you giving him?1
Tell him ull give him some tips and if he doesn't listen and get u off ur findin someone that can1
Talk to him more, if he really want this to work we needs to find ways to satisfy you, use some toys some lubes, have him eat you and touch you in new ways. Fuck even see a sex worker so you can both get the help you guys need. Aftee that, ask him if he would be okay with a open relationship again, have you told him that he can see other women as well?
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I would say, try something new, a new position, take his hand and coach him a little on how and where to touch to turn you on. Maybe try new locations also sometimes having sex somewhere else other than the norm it can get people to become a little creative and experience diffrent things0
You're so silly.0
I can relate to you.. its very difficult and frustrating..0
Damn sorry hope he's ok with your open relationship idea0
Boys. This is why you do not marry. Read her words carefully.0
Tell him you're searching for meaningless Sex, that's all. Maybe he understands0
Easy: tell him what he's doing wrong and try to tell him what you like in bed.0
Seek therapy, seriously! You need help. There are sexual therapists and coaches, but wait that's work right pft! Easier to seek new c*ck to satisfy you, ride the c*ck carousel, yeah just rip your marriage and vows apart, destroy your children, all because of your sexual desires and eventual infidelity... wait, that's what 75-85% of women do, so you are just one of the statistics because you don't seek to find a solution with your S/O husband, nah, just go find a exciting new guy for new c*cks... or you could actually be happy and find satisfaction by working on yourself and your husband, (better or worse, richer or poorer shit). Whatever, just sounds like you're seeking approval/validation to do what you're already thinking about doing, 1/2 way out the door already so why ask for advice? However, if you are trying to solve this, see above... otherwise do what every other woman does (don't blame me, see statistics wherein women initiate divorce for things that could be easily resolved; 75-85% as I said)... hmmm, so I don't really care as I am mgtow, I am indifferent to it all, I don't sugarcoat sh*t, like it, don't like it, I don't care. I am just here to help, cheers!0
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