My ex left me because I was not fun and that I kept my focus on school rather then her. I know that at the time I didn't mind because I wanted her to be happy to do what she wanted to do. We had broken up once before, and well that was due to the fact I fell apart as a person, and to admit I am still not 100% myself still, but mostly myself. She also felt like she was going to be held back if she had stayed with me and different things. I knew she had fallen out of love with me and well I couldn't deal with the relationship, and currently I still believe that I can't deal with any relationship at the moment. She has moved on to another guy, now this guy compared to me from what I have gathered, is just a fun guy, a guy who does what she wants and everything (he is a party animal, very social, I am some what the opposite). As I sat at my desk today working on my projects, I couldn't stop wondering what if I did try a bit harder in the relationship, opened up more and showed my feelings. I regret not showing certain emotions that this guy shows, I regret not trying as hard in the relationship then I did, I also regret not treating her right. I wish I could tell her how I feel without seeming odd, since we have been friends, its been a year today that we broke up the first time and I know that our chemistry did die down, it was just a major spark between us when we started dating and from what I have gathered its similar to the way these two have started. I just guess I am jealous of this new guy, but I just seem to let go of her and the regrets I have.
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Don't kick yourself. I know easier said than done but what is done is done. Maybe she just wasn't the one for you. Some girls like the serious, quiet guy. I know I would rather stay home with my man than go partying any day. You just need to find that girl. You really need to stop blaming yourself because it takes two to end a relationship. I am sure in the relationship she made mistakes too. Don't compare yourself to this other guy if you do it will just eat you up inside trust me! It sounds like you haven't really got any closure and haven't got all of your feeling out. I have found that it helps to write out your feelings and then re-read it within a couple weeks. If you still feel the same way maybe talk to somebody about it...if your friends with her tell her you want closure. By the way if she was the one, it would have been easier for you to open up. Maybe you were just looking for a companionship and she was just there. Breaking up is hard but trust me it gets better with time. You will find somebody who fits your personality better. This person you will feel comfortable sharing your feelings with and will except you for who you are not what she wants you to be. Don't lose hope it is out there. In the meantime surround yourself with people who like your personality. If your feeling a little bland try something new and exciting with friends and have a good time.0