I hate my partner but I can't leave him. What shall I do?

I've been with my OH for 3 years, I fell pregnant 2 months into the relationship because he refused to use contraception and manipulated to have sex. 3 years later we've had plenty of arguments, he controls my life, he breaks my phone's and other items, he rarely helps with our child, I have to do everything for him like he is a child himself. I'm not saying I'm an angel but I try my hardest and think Im pretty easy going. He knows I don't love him because I am honest. I want to work at the relationship to stay a family but I need him to change and he physically can't. I hate him touching me, cuddling me I don't want to have sex with him but he always guilts me into doing it. He says if I leave he gets our child when I know after everything he's done hell be aloud to have her. So the question is do I give up or do I keep hoping for something that won't happen

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  • This seems to be a highly co-dependent relationship to me. Love? Are you sure you know what you mean by that? I think it's the inconvenience that you hate. You love this relationship as it is, because you and him are feeding each other on each others bad feelings. You need this and he needs it as well. This is my remote brief opinion about it. If it's not too toxic, you might be able to sustain it on a moderate level. But I think it will be annoying at some point in time and a break up is inevitable. And be aware that your child will be a victim of this.

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  • Is he abusive? Like does he hit you? Or is he just a lazy asshole?

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    • He pushes me, throws things at me but hasn't actually hit me

    • Well I would separate from him and do what's best for you and your child.

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What Guys Said 6

  • Don't blame him for pregnancy. You've already lost credibility with me

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  • He won't get the child as long as you have a job and your not s violent towards the child probably be a 50/50 custody

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  • Divorce him make him pay and get a better OH tbh

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  • Why can't you leave him when you hate him?

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    • Because I'm scared if what he'll do

    • Call the police cry a bit and talk about rape and he is in prison

  • Divorce him, Abortion/Adoption, and restraint.

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  • You definitely should divorce him.

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What Girls Said 3

  • I doubt he would get custody, even in the most dire situations they tend to give custody to the mom, and yes you should leave him, if he repulses you now he will later and it will only hurt your child more the older they get

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  • Why would he get your child?

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    • Well that's what I say but he says to me if I want to leave I have to without my child as I'm the homewrecker

    • I imagine the law will see it differently, have you spoken to an attorney?

  • Oh just kiss him already

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