For the past 2 months I’ve been dating this guy he’s 21! I’m 23! There’s a little bit of a age difference but I over looked it. We have been inseparable ever since we met, 247 7 days a week up underneath each other. It’s been amazing. My heart hasn’t been so full in years.
Then everything just changed and fell apart
Last week it was the day before Valentine’s Day I told him all I wanted was flowers 💐 for Valentine’s Day, he told me that he was gonna take me out and do something special. The morning of Valentine’s Day everything was good he left me around 10 am and told me he had to help his sister move her stuff outta storage and that he’ll be back tonight then we can do something special. The whole day passes I hardly hear from him. Then he tells me he can’t come back to me because he doesn’t have a ride back to Maryland he lives in west v his story went like this “after helping my sister we all came back to my house I fell asleep and when I woke up every one was gone, she came back to Maryland with out me now I have no ride” then he tells me his friend who lives in west v is going to a bar and invited him and he’s going to go. Then the next day I hardly Hurd from him. Long story short he told our mutual friend that he spent Valentine’s Day with another girl took her out fucked her and has been with her for the past 2 days he’s been missing. And i confronted him about it he completely denied it and cursed me out. Now he says he wants nothing to do with me. He’s treating me like a bag of garbage
My question is why did he just switch up on me like that? Did I do something wrong? Why did he play me? If y’all would have saw us you would think we were perfect for each other. All of our friends can’t believe what happened and has no advice for me. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
Damn... harsh way to treat a girl if you liked her at all in the least. I'm guessing him cussing you out once confronted about cheating was deflective response in order to not deal with how fucked up he's been. Not wanting nothing to do with you is also a way of avoiding the stress of having to face his own actions.
I'm guessing the mutual friend has been called a liar?
So he's going to act as if he is so offended by your accusations of cheating (which he probably is), so in that case... he's done with the mutual friend right? I mean if the mutual friend lied to his girl, he'd be done with that mutual friend and probably realize the mutual friend is to blame... not you.
Yeah but he isn't realizing anything like that huh. Just acting offended that you confronted him huh. Probably isn't even treating the mutual friend like a new found liar/manipulator (and possibly a dude that wants to snake his girl?) huh.
The rationale of the cheater usually has a lot to do with thinking they're not going to get caught. I think he knows he's busted and is now trying to monkey branch to this other woman because he knows he's got drama with you now that he's been found out.3
Most Helpful Girl
wtf? how do this people even exist? my goodness...
be thankful because you did find out at the right time, before you were too attached to him and before he played around with you even more. You always have to look at the positive side of things :) You deserve so much more than that. You were fine before you met him, you'll be fine now. I know this hurts like hell but you have to keep your head up and know that you have A LOT of value. You're not anyone's distraction, someone can't just play around with you like that.3