My ex girl the love of my life thus far turned 23 yesterday I'm 27 she dumped me in July for nothing major apart from she has never really been single, I tried win her back in the weeks following our break up but to no avail, she hinted she wanted me to fight for her so I did. But I've been trying to go no contact to heal and she contacts me about every 2weeks this week was her birthday I did not contact her and this weekend it is a year since we got together and she tried contacting me yesterday I made it clear that friends would not be enough although we were best friends for 4years prior to getting together. Please shed some light for me ?
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Why is it easy for her to talk to you but hard for you to talk to her? You need to ask her why she's contacting you every so often, what is she actually gaining out of it? I understand you were best friends for a long time so she's probably hoping to have that in her life. She misses you. Maybe she's hoping you'll come round to the idea of just being her friend.
I've seen that people can be friends with exes after a while, but it often causes problems when those two people decide to have relationships with new people. Having your ex on the scene with a new girl isn't cool.
Is she still single now? Are you? Have either of you dated anyone since?
If one day she decides she wants it all back again, she'll find you. Doesn't seem like she's listened so far, you told her friends wouldn't be enough yet she still keeps calling. Tell her to leave you alone... And Don't waste your time waiting, get a new number and move on if she can't respect what you want.
Go find someone who's ready for you now, not when it suits them. No one deserves to be sat around waiting. Go heal, go get someone new.
I understand she's the love of your life so it's going to be very difficult if after a year you're still thinking of her, problem is she hasn't gave you time to come to terms with it. Tell her that what she's doing is really unfair and disrespectful. I know it's gonna be hard, but anytime she texts or calls just ignore it. She'll soon realize what she's done when she notices you're gone from her... She might even realize how sh*t things are when she can't talk to you. Tough love hey.
For now, block her out. It takes two to tango, she calls. you answer. She texts. you reply. Stop it!0