That makes a lot of sense. Because, whenever we would argue, he would say “ok, then end it if you aren’t happy”. I feel he maybe didn’t want to be in the relationship (not even from the beginning) and would tell me to be the one to end it, and he wouldn’t hold me back. It’s funny though. We broke up about 3 months ago, because he wanted to end it. Then 2 weeks after he broke up with me, he wanted to get back together.
he was lonely, and wanted the benefits a relationship give (intimacy, comfort, touch, etc). but that doesn't mean that you guys were the perfect fit. You were the easiest and most available option because he knew you would take him back.
Makes no sense. He had plenty of options when he was with me. He talked to literally like 10 girls and was cheating on me with one of them.
Of course i would have taken him back. He broke up with me over something stupid i said.
Why couldn’t he just leave when he realized he did not love me?
Some males are cowards and afraid to hurt a females feelings. They rather cheat than to be upfront and straightforward about how they feel.
He told me he blocked her after i found out, and she isn’t in his life anymore. But, i don’t know...
I wouldn't believe it! Unless you guys try working it out but that's up to you.
No. We did not agree to work it out. This happened very recently, a little over a month ago. He said to me “i still want you, but i don’t deserve you. Maybe in the future we can try again. But now we should focus on ourselves.” Right now we aren’t on speaking terms because i said some really mean things out of anger. But yes. He basically ran away from trying to fix it
What he said is true and you should be thankful that he's trying to grow up instead of being with you when he can't commit. Just take it as it is. I know you have strong feelings for him but love yourself more. Pray about the situation and move on
I don’t think he is trying to grow up. I see what he’s doing on social media. He will never change. He cares too much about his ego and female attention/validation.
He said in the future after we work on ourselves. However, i was still connected to him on social media. I don’t really see him trying to work on himself. I feel bad for who he dates next 😂 i realize now he really only cared about his ego and getting female validation.
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Because he never told me he was unhappy. And always expressed wanting to make the relationship work. Also, just because was unhappy doesn’t mean he gets to cheat and it shouldn’t be a big deal. If he was unhappy, then he could have left. No one forced him to be with me.
That's true. Many times people cheat as way to stay in the relationship though. You probably have many qualities that he loved, but the other woman had things that you lack.
I am not sure what she had that i lacked. She was just a “fuck buddy” to him. She didn’t give him a hard time about things because all she wanted was sex. But, my ex would act like a jerk online and give attention to other females. The attention i would ask him for :/
Romance and attention is a two way street. He may have felt that you were not investing in the relationship enough to inspire him.
I gave him a lot of my attention and i invested a lot. He was the one that stopped giving me attention, and began to give it to other girls online.
I don't know what to tell you then
I guess he just wanted the easy way out. He seemed very upset. He said “this is my punishment for cheating you. I didn’t respect you. Now i don’t get to keep you”. But, now he’s on social media adding tons of girls and posting tons to his Instagram story (selfies), and seeking validation. He is a messed up person. I believe his massive ego led him to cheat.
The term "cheat" is erronous and dumb. No one cheats on anything but board games. There are no rules and nothing is written down. Sexuality is really complex and it's normal and natural for him to want to have sex with lots of girls, not just one-- pretty much all of us want that. But yeah I suppose he should have had a conversation with you about that before having sex with someone else. Of course he's seeking validation, that's all almost anyone uses the Internet for.
No. Cheating is wrong. Cheating is not giving/receiving consent to go outside the relationship. Of course we all want sex with other people, but he did not tell me. We never made an agreement for that. So, the term cheating isn’t really erroneous and dumb :/
What I mean is, why is the assumption that monogamy should be the automatic go-to for people? When it really shouldn't be? See, everyone assumes that, and so they use the word "cheating" as though there are rules in this life, when there aren't. I think it mostly has to do with all of us being emotionally insecure with ourselves. That is why we pretend that "cheating" is real-- to make ourselves feel better when the person we like wants to have sex with someone who isn't us.
I mean. I told him i wanted a monogamous relationship. We both agreed to it. Or, at least i thought so. Plus, he told me if he ever cheated he would tell me. But, he never did tell me.
But i mean, if you don’t care about cheating/being cheated on. That’s good for you. I told my ex i didn’t want a open relationship or cheating.
He obviously wasn't okay with that.
He should have voiced that. And not lied to me and did it behind my back.
lol. People like you are like my ex. I’m sorry you don’t have morals or respect there. Selfishness is an ugly trait.
Yeah, in theory he should have. And he knew that truly expressing his feelings would have turned you off to him, and he didn't want that because he liked you, so he just didn't say anything.
Sure. Well, good luck then.
Clearly he did not like me enough. That’s selfish. That’s disgusting.
Maybe. Maybe not. Good luck out there.
I didn’t cheat! He cheated !!!
OH, so sorry. my bad.. Fuck him!, he disrespected YOU. in the lowest form possible. Not only did he cheat, but you have no idea what the other woman's sexual history is and what STDs she could have, and he brought that risk back to you! Also, once you cheat, its easy to cheat again. You can't really trust him,,, Ever I am so sorry that you have been cheated on.. its sucks!
He also told me “i never told you about the cheating because i thought you would never find out, and i could just move past it”. He thought we could end on good terms, but then refused to give me certain information. Then he called me toxic when i get angry at him and said someone hurtful things to him. He’s a monster. Omg. I am so angry now.
Forgive him when you are ready, not for his sake, for yours.. then move past it. I promise you it gets better.
I don’t know if i can... i also hate that he might treat the next girl better. He didn’t cheat on his past 2 exes. He did me though.
That is pain your feeling.. it does wain. No matter what he thought or felt about you, he cheated, and you deserve better.. Dont give him the power to sour your life, not even a little bit. Somebody will treat you with the love and respect that you require.
l dont like cheats it breaks the heart in two
I feel he cheated because of who i am :(
was he bad to you 3 girls cheat on me over a few years l have never cheated on a girl and l will never be a cheat l only wish to have a nice girl in my life to love and please and to respect at all times edwin the nice scottish guy
l would love you to tell me please edwin
Why did he make it seem like he cheated on me because it was my fault :/ he said he was miserable with me.
He's a jerk and selfish, I wouldn't give him a second thought...
I will try not too. It’s just hard, i still have deep feelings for him. Mine were genuine, even if his weren’t.
This too shall pass :)
Why didn’t he want to leave when he was already cheating?
What do you mean?
He was sprouting nonsense as to avoid confrontation-it's an old tactic
I read some of your replies-you're smarter than most girls-stronger too