Whom I have been seeing for some months now (since February). It started as a 'me just being a guy' and wanting to hookup, all the while she had a crush on me some years back and I suppose you could say I took advantage of the situation. But as the months passed, I grew to like everything about her, even though I was fully aware (she was verbal about it) that she was scared to be in anything serious and had some serious guy issues in terms of her ex's.. So on her birthday, she basically tells me that she thinks I am more attached to her than she can handle, and it isn't fair to me so she has to end it... We have been 'together' (not official) for 8 months now, and on her birthday she decides to end it. I don't get it, I'm hurt, and don't know what to do. Should I just move on? This has all been so sudden. She told me that a week ago she just had this nagging feeling about 'us' and now I guess that has taken over. I am legitimately crushed but I will live. But I'm not over her, I don't like the way this ended, and I just don't know what to do, move on? Or wait? Or keep her in mind but for now move on? I just want someone else's (preferably girls) opinions.
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I think I understand your situation. And it is hard to let go of someone like that. That was rash and unexpected on her part. I believe that she "broke up" with you not because she didn't like you, but she is afraid of getting attached again and losing you, like whatever happened to her ex... I mean I know it sounds silly but people who get hurt badly are afraid to love again..especially with girls...because they think they'll be left again. I agree with Clueless09's answer - she is leaving you because she probably thinks that she doesn't deserve you or that you don't like her enough so she doesn't want to take a risk and commit into something, only to get dumped later.
"A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left." (Marilyn Monroe quote)... She is afraid of being used again.0