My favorite response yet.
😉 glad to hear
Too many people just roll with it even if they aren't happy.
What if it’s because he’s a women beater? Will you give chance?
Hell no I wouldn’t give him no chance I ain’t about to risk getting my ass beat but I doubt he would tell a woman he did that no smart woman would risk her health if the man has a reputation for being abusive
Wow y’all women really don’t give guys chance
What if he wants to improve and the beating was a 1 time thing he will never do again?
The man had his chance when he beat up his wife kinda like a cheater once they do it it is hard for them to not do it again
It all depends on the context
What was the situation
Ex 1. His wife hit him several times when told to stop and threw objects at him., he hit back in self defence , now he’s labeled a women beater Ex2. He got drugged at a part or club and a girl took him home and slept with him. Now he’s a cheater
Sounds like lies or really shitty luck.
@junebug431 it’s not me, these are made up examples
If that was the case she needed to be branded as a man beater if of beat her ass if she did that she put herself in a mans shoes and deserved to get her ass whooped and the other wasn’t his fault he was drugged would probably hurt his girlfriend or wife bad but she would forgive him I think I would and if find the bitch who drugged my man and she would be drugged and dragged in a ditch
😂😂😂 girl I like you thinking
Well I hate women who do that to men they act a fool and he just puts her in her place and he’s the bad guy it’s not fair
Well that’s my point, y’all need the context before judging an accused man
I didn’t judge you said woman beater it’s one thing to beat a woman for no cause it’s another if it was her fault what you gone say I’m branded as a woman beater you ok with that no you would say look there something you need to know if anyone says I’m a woman beater I’m not this was the situation and you tell her the situation and she would understand
Well what if you heard of his “woman beating” reputation before you even met him? And now u curve him
What you think woman gonna think you asked would you give a woman beater a Chance that’s meaning they meant it they did it a lot. Not in self defense
I didn't say it was you, i just said it was lies or bad luck. Lol
No cuz you heard of his false reputation
Ohh I’m dead Lool
Well that may be different might curve him yes but be no diff than someone saying that woman is a bitch and she don’t talk and she so stuck up what If she is stuck up as you say cause she’s been hurt and it’s hard to give her time to a man or well she’s a butch maybe she just don’t take bs no more and you got to get to know her and maybe she don’t talk cause she’s shy but you curve her cause you hear what your guy friends say about her it same difference
True, but hoes are usually given the name because it’s true , no one makes that up
Lol why you that person or something
And that’s true the usually hoes or fuck boys are exactly what they are cause many have seen them and been with them and can say they are it proof not just rumors
Lady be quiet, lol I get bitches , I only beat the pussy up that’s it
😂😂😂 cool keep it that way
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Fuck no, thats insane. Also completely stupid. Lol if you work for it then its too yours. She keeps her own stuff and he keeps his own stuff.
gold digger , this type of woman is men afraid off nowadays...
I agree, the commitment you make when you get married is to share everything with that person. If you didn't make a prenuptial agreements then you owe her half. Just because you were more fortunate and given the opportunity to make more money than her doesn't mean she didn't earn her keep by supporting me emotionally and mentally. Even division after a partnership is the right thing to do. I disagree with alimony but that's another story.
Well in my case where she didn't do anything, didn't work didn't go to school. didn't even cook or clean the house. She was lucky enough I gave her a car. I worked and earned it all. She also cheated, so she really shouldn't get anything.
I was in nearly the same boat, I paid her way through college, bought her a car, bought us a house, furnished it, and all at the expense of my mental health and social life (military) and then when she finnally. got an she up and left, but I agreed to marry her so I agreed that everything we accumulated during that time was 1/2 hers including all the retirement I had saved and the furniture I bought. She even gets my kayak since I bought us a pair to go out on together and only I ever went. But that's the word I gave so that's what I did.
Both people werent happy and she cheated.
If the man was cheated on, he deserves to know what real love is like. I'm a woman myself, but I don't have the right to judge what is good or bad. I wouldn't judge him, but if the man did something bad, I would be careful in dating him.
I didn't do anything, my job makes me work a lot. She got bored.
I'm very sorry for you. I know how it feels to have your heart tossed around and shattered. It's okay to feel like that. If it's that case, yes. I would date the man. Yes, I will be careful. And yes, I may be a flight risk, but I made a solemn promise to never break a heart. Anyone's.
What do you mean a flight risk?
What if the woman was the one who initiated the divource on unfair grounds? Just to take half his shit.
@Patis young* then he doesn't know women very well and the same still stands, I don't need to be their practice, I like my men after they figure themselves out.
I suppose that's reasonable.
I've only been in one relationship and it lasted 9 years, I feel like I have more experience with an actually long term relationship because of it and would be more successful in my next one.
No one is faultless in a divorce.
@Eikz1000 So how is the victim of abuse or a cheating with a fault?
How do get to the point where your married to somebody and haven't seen the warning signs that they have extreme anger or abusive tendencies? And in my experience people only cheat when one or more of their needs aren't being met, I've never had a desire to go outside of a relationship when the relationship is functioning and healthy, I've only ever had an urge to be with other women when I felt as if I no longer had anything in common with my partner and that we both worked so much that we never saw each other. I discussed this with my partner and we agreed to an open relationship which led to the downfall of the marriage. The point is that I've always felt completely satisfied with a healthy relationship and despite being given several opportunities to cheat refused them all, until the relationship fell apart on it's own and niether of us were willing to admit it.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that anybody deserves to be abused or cheated on, but they entered in a marital contract with that person, they aren't at fault for being abused but they still made their choices which will always affect the outcome, if I married an abuser I would have to admit that I married that person without knowing them well enough, or was making some silly attempt to change them which is not my job.
@Eikz1000 1. WOW. Just because you went through certain experiemces, doesn't mean others do too. Just because you don't cheat without your need not being satisfied, doesn't mean others are the same, many cheat for stupid reasons. Even if your "need" isn't being met (for say. m not getting sex 3x a weeo like they want, just as an example), that doesn't justify it, so that still means it's not the victim's fault.2. A person can change. At the time of knowing someone they have not always been abusers. It grows. For instance with new alcoholic behaviours and dependency, it can go. Or new problems. You're only talking about some certain abusers.3. Read this quote that you wrote back and ill rest my case: "they aren't at fault".
My keyboard is lagging, apologies for typos
So if I married someone and watch them degrade into an alcoholic with severe mental issues and I was supposed to be their partner and protect them doesn't that in turn mean it partly my fault?
And there are significantly more needs than sexual, people my cheat when they feel they have lost the connection with their partner or to cope with severe depression or self esteem issues. I guess my opinion isn't that both people are to blame it's that blame is useless.
And who is to say that that person would have developed abusive tendencies or substance abuse problems if he wasn't in an already toxic relationship.
Also I forgive your typos : :p
@Eikz1000 1. "and I was supposed to be their partner and protect them doesn't that in turn mean it partly my fault?" You say this, but earlier you claimed it's silly to stay and attempt to change them. That's contradiction to your points. In any case, ofc it's not your fault that your partner became an alcoholic. Some people cannot/will not change, listen or take advice/help. Thus, leading to many abusive problems & other problems & therefore a divorce is justified and not the one on the receiving end's (of the abuse) fault. Trying to blame yourself or the person who sees their partner become worse in such a case os just self-critical/putting yourself down for no reason.2. FOR YOU, perhaps it goes above sexual needs, yes. But again, not everyone is the same. I have seen people cheat for lesser reasons.3. "in an already toxic relationship" ? You're literally just changing the scenario now. That is a hypothetical example that does not cover all abusers. You're trying to blame the Vic
I'm not trying to blame the vic, I'm saying that abusers and alcoholics are also victims of something else, it may not have been their spouse but I choose to believe no one becomes a drunk or abusive of their own free will, who would wake up in the morning and choose to be that way?
If someone is divorced it is the fault of both parties. Marriage is a two way street and divorces don't just happen because one person is screwed up. Two very successful and good people can have a shitty relationship that drives them to do things that cause the end but at the end of the day the fact that the relationship got to that point is both people's fault.
I’d say if someone was abusive or a cheater then it’s not a two way street.
Abusive no. That usually indicates mental health problems. But cheating might be different. What if he wasn't happy in the relationship but knew she couldn't support herself financially or emotionally. Is it wrong for him to try to be happy without kicking her to the curb first?
@Eikz1000. Yes it is wrong for him to stay with her and go outside the marriage. Only if you talked to her and she agreed she couldn't support herself and if you stay in return she'll let you be with other women. But she deserves that respect to know your so unhappy you want sex with others. In my case I spent 15 years with my now ex. Apparently he felt I wasn't giving him enough attention. But instead of letting me know that so we could work on the issue he made me believe everything was good and cheated.
I was completely blindsided when the day came that I could see something was bothering him and I asked him what was wrong. That's when he told me that he wasn't happy with me. He also told me he had been having a 6 month affair with an ex girlfriend from his past and that he's leaving me for her. I had never been so broken by anyone. In my life. Even when our friends we hung out with daily were shocked. oppThey would always say we are the perfect couple because didn't see anything but happiness from us. We never fought and were very affectionate toward each other. And the only reason I wasn't able to give him as much attention that year was because I had been going through surgeries and months of infection. So it wasn't my fault. All he had to do is talk to me and we may have never had to breakup our family.
I don't know your situation, but perhaps he didn't feel comfortable approaching you. I know my ex and I had major communication issues which is eventually what broke us up and that's niether person's fault, in my case we agreed to an open relationship then she divorced me because I slept with another woman she felt threatened by. We should have communicated more during the whole thing but she was too afraid of conflict to bring it up. That's not her fault but it's not mine either. Blame is basically useless since any small change in the relationship on either person's part may have changed the outcome. We also looked like the perfect couple on the outside, and losing her nearly cost me my life but at the end of the day it's both our faults and nobodies fault at the same time.
I was blindsided by the fight that led to the divorce because we had agreed to end the open relationship and I felt we were on an upswing and starting to reconnect when she left.
Both people werent happy anymore then she cheated.
Kids, and why you split
wasn't happy, she cheated. No kids between us.