So I never thought I would land myself in this situation, but of course stupidly enough I did. Thought I found a great guy, we were really close, he was my everything and my best friends at the same time. We did everything together, talked all the time and we were happy. For a year at least. We are both under 20 and he's still in school, I was a little older than him. I was the one that paid for stuff and got him whatever he needed, I was always there for him, and I loved him with all my heart. He had a sh*tty life growing up, didn't have a dad and his mom is a real heartless bitch. I grew up in a loving family and I just wanted so bad to bring him into my family and show him how it really could be. He seemed to really enjoy it for a while, like he just wanted to escape the past and be happy. Then the summer came around and he changed. All he wanted to do was hang out with friends and go to parties. He got into drugs and alcohol and started sleeping around with girls. He was never like this before...I was the first girl he ever even had sex with. The whole summer we were at each other throats about stuff and he came back a few times and then in August even though he knew I was pregnant and all he said that he loved me, but for right then he felt as though he was more comfortable as just being friends. He told me he would still be my best friend and even be there for the kid, but things just got worse and we started fighting and barely talking he was always with his friends or doing some stupid sh*t. Now for the past month he has been calling me up once or twice a week to talk saying that he has changed and that he wants to take responsibility for the baby. I don't know if I should believe him and yes what he did was wrong, yes he is immature, yes he has broke my heart and is no good for me but...I can't change the fact that I love him and I miss the old him so much. He seemed a little different on the phone...kinda like his old self almost and he IS taking an interest in the kid. I just...don't know if things could ever be the same between us ever again. I wanted him to come to a get together with all are old friends to show him these are his real friends that truly love him and show him he can have just as much fun without the drugs and alcohol. I want to help him change again...I did it before, but I don't know if I can do it this time, He still checks my MySpace sometimes and he seems to still want me sexual this he said in a text message, but that's not what I want! Last week he told me that the reason he broke up with me was because we were together for so long he was bored and it was summer all the guys he knew were getting single and doing what he was doing, he didn't want to be left out. Lame excuse, but he's immature, bi-polar, and has anger issues. I know this is stupid, but I still wanna help him...I want us to be a family and show him what real love and family life really is like. Will he maybe come around after I do this?
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WHOA! You're calling him immature, bi-polar and you know he has anger issues among everything else (drugs, alcohol, emotional abuse (fighting), walked out on you and the kid, broke your heart, etc...)
To be honest, I would argue for visitation rights only. This guy doesn't need to abuse you and walk away just to waltz back in when it's convienient for him; especially with how much you speak about caring for him.
if things ARE meant to work out, he'll show this same effort over time. Don't just succumb to his "i'm back to how I was" temporary behavior. I used to do that alot, trust me, it won't get you anywhere with this guy.
It's a long journey, but it is possible to fully trust him again. All wounds will heal over time; it's like a scab.. The wound hurt, but the scab doesn't unless you snag it again; and only time can let it heal without leaving a mark, but if you pick at it you risk marking yourself for a long time (sometimes forever)... Take it slow and steady and things will work out for the best, don't just jump into his arms.